More housework, less sex for married men: study
AFP - The road to hell is paved with good intentions, as they say: the more housework married men do, the less sex they have, according to a new study published Wednesday.
Husbands who spend more time doing traditionally female chores -- such as cooking, cleaning, and shopping -- reported having less sex than those who do more masculine tasks, said the study in the American Sociological Review.
"Our findings suggest the importance of socialized gender roles for sexual frequency in heterosexual marriage," said lead author Sabino Kornrich, of the Center for Advanced Studies at the Juan March Institute in Madrid.
"Couples in which men participate more in housework typically done by women report having sex less frequently. Similarly, couples in which men participate more in traditionally masculine tasks -- such as yard work, paying bills, and auto maintenance -- report higher sexual frequency."
His study, "Egalitarianism, Housework, and Sexual Frequency in Marriage," looks at straight married couples in the United States, and was based on data from the National Survey of Families and Households.
The study was co-authored by University of Washington sociologist Julie Brines and doctoral candidate Katrina Leupp.
Men in the study reported having had sex an average of 5.2 times in the month prior to the survey, while women reported 5.6.
But both men and women in couples with more traditional household labor divisions said they had more sex.
"The results suggest the existence of a gendered set of sexual scripts, in which the traditional performance and display of gender is important for creation of sexual desire and performance of sexual activity," Kornrich said.
However, the study's authors stop short of arguing that house husbands should hang up their aprons.
"Men who refuse to help around the house could increase conflict in their marriage and lower their wives' marital satisfaction," Kornrich said.
"Earlier research has found that women's marital satisfaction is indeed linked to men's participation in overall household labor, which encompasses tasks traditionally done by both men and women."
Consider it a public service announcement. Heh.
Correlation is enough.
But it can imply it.
Correlation is certainly enough to imply correlation. It doesn't imply causality. Or else we can deduce that getting a speeding ticket makes you break the speed limit -- and aspirins cause headaches!
Saw someone give a talk on this same issue from a different perspective. He started by reminding us that correlation isn't causality. Then he noted things that correlate with men doing household chores: reporting more happiness, less depression, better health, and scads of other nice things. Can't recall if better sex was one of them. "So if you want to stay healthy, you might want to think about this!"
But of course, sick and depressed men do less housework, because anybody who's sick or depressed doesn't feel like doing housework.
Unless housework depresses you
I know one woman who works just so she can hire a housekeeper; she hates housework so much.
I would have to know if the two are stastically linked or not. The actual reason behind the men doing more housework and the less sex. Is it on the part of the wife or the husband (husband being too tired after housework to engage, too henpecked to want to engage, or too depressed after spending the week doing "women's work" to engage) or the wife (too tired after working at her job to engage, too busy henpecking her good-for-nothing husband to engage, or disillusioned about her "womanly" husband after his spending his time doing "women's work" to engage).
Interesting, but it seems like they focused on the domestic chores vs. whether the wife works "outside the home." My guess is that where wife works full time outside the home, there's less sex in general, and, I'd bet, more sex if hubby in fact does help out around the house. The higher rate of sex/month for women, at 0.2, should also be a concern - are they saying that hubby stays home waxing the floors while the wife strays outside the marriage?
Silly, yes help around the house, but the problem is an overall issue:
1. Yes Man, Nice Guy wimp who capitulates to all demands and never makes a decision = less sex and a wife you wants to smack you upside the head. The guy who says things like “Whatever you want to do honey,” when asked a simple question of where to go for dinner…
2. The man vacuuming the floor that his wife sees as James Bond helping out= more sex.