I've only just discovered AoE and am loving the posts and community thus far. But I feel that there is something missing.
I'm really interested in posts that have to do with becoming a man than anything else. It seems to me that there are a lot of "how to do" things on here but not so much on building character.
For example I am looking for a way to build qualities in myself to be the best man I could possibly be.
Are there any other blogs/sites that you would recommend? I haven't come across anything like this blog and would love a few others to take a look at!
Go through the blog itself, the forum is great for shooting the breeze, but Brett puts out some great stuff. You may have to dig a little as he tends to put out a lot of volume.
"not so much on building character"
I can try and point you to the right direction:
Manovationals (my favourite ones):
The rest of the manovationals:
Lessons in manliness:
Though, I do think by doing a lot of the "how to" things" would probably build character anyway. But these articles may help put things into perspective for some people.
I agree with what has been posted here already. Additionally, Brett did a series on the concept of honor that I found very worthwhile.
As far as the conversations in the forum go, I think there is quite a bit here to be absorbed regarding character. Reading how different men here respond to different topics, one can pick out character traits from the opinions expressed.
being new it is hard to know where to start thanks
I've followed the site for several years. There's a blend of topics and the site has evolved. What you see now is quite different than what was on the site in the past. There was a period when most of the blogging was about learning the simple everyday skills and habits that were common among (at least) American men. It goes in cycles. There have been and continue to be articles on what makes a man, how to do things, philosophies of life, how to shave (which does include a vocal number of afficianados of the straight razor and the old double edged safety razor), and the guys who truly regret not having some sort of "tribal initiation into manhood."
You just have to dig through the blog. Of late, I've seen several old discussions revived, often ones that are several years old. Have fun with looking. You'll likely find some threads or groups that are exactly what you're looking for.
A bit of advice. DO NOT try to change everything at once; it won't work. Take one aspect of your life that you want to change, work on that for 90 days. When you've achieved the goal and that aspect becomes continuing habit take another aspect and work on that. Continue this cycle for the rest of your life.
I made the huge mistake of taking on too much at once. The end result was a huge mess that took a while to clean.
It's like the question: "How do you eat an elephant?"
The answer is "One bite at a time".
I really would never eat Elephant, but Deer or Elk or Buffalo yes one bite at a time.