I have a question as to how grown straight men show affection for each other. I'm 25 Years old, and I grew up in a very lonely household. I had no brothers, and my dad was always very cold. I was always a quiet kid, and never made many friends.
I've since "blossomed" and for the most part I've gotten over my social akwardness. I've made many friends. I have one very good friend, who is like a big brother to me. I really enjoy his company, and I really do love him (As my brother, and yes, I'm straight). I never learned how men show affection for eachother, and I find male affection akward.
How do I tell a macho straight man that he is like my adopted brother, and that I love him, without it being akward for him?
I don't think there is anything wrong with telling your friend you love him. I don't have a lot of friends, really only 3 and one of them is my brother. I have hugged my male friends and told one of them i loved him like a brother, was not weird or awkward at all.
But honestly, who cares if someone thinks you are queer for it? As long as my friends are my friends i could care less if people thought i was gay or a serial killer. Just be what you want and don't care what others thing, be a man dammit
Buy him a beer, make a joke about his sexuality and cook steaks together on the grill. Outdoors.
One of the aspects with showing affection to a male friend is the issue of touch. Whether to, or not. To hug, or not. The American culture, in particular, has trained men to have "their personal space." For many -- violate that, and you may get punched. Or scare the dude.
I think it has resulted in men who are simultaneously touch starved - and phobic.
This is an interesting website on what the guy calls "Touch Practice." On how men are unique individuals, with different needs and different boundaries. The site is not sexually-oriented, but it does discuss the impact/influence that sexuality has in regular, everyday relationships.
But it gives a lot to ponder.