I have a question as to how grown straight men show affection for each other. I'm 25 Years old, and I grew up in a very lonely household. I had no brothers, and my dad was always very cold. I was always a quiet kid, and never made many friends.
I've since "blossomed" and for the most part I've gotten over my social akwardness. I've made many friends. I have one very good friend, who is like a big brother to me. I really enjoy his company, and I really do love him (As my brother, and yes, I'm straight). I never learned how men show affection for eachother, and I find male affection akward.
How do I tell a macho straight man that he is like my adopted brother, and that I love him, without it being akward for him?
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You've already answered your own question... He 's like a brother to you? Display your affection for him exactly like you would do for your brother.
As others have already pointed out, you did a good job expressing your thoughts here, so when the moment seems right, say it!
Is it really something that requires being articulated out loud?
Tell him exactly as written here, then sucker-punch him in the nuts. It will deflate the awkwardness and replace it with a growing urge to pummel you.
Drunken confessions are always good, too.
Just don't mention how the water glistens all over his body when you go swim at the lake.
Yea man, listen to your oneness. YOU know what you want to communicate to him, the only thing standing in your way is, ironically, YOU! Based on MY life experience, I suggest you stop thinking about it. Just let it take shape in your subconscious.
When the time is right, it will just happen naturally.
The ugly truth is the time may NEVER be right to tell him exactly as planned. Every relationship is unique, but it's common for these sorts of things to be unspoken for the most part. The silence of understanding, or the unspoken bond as some say. However, it's up to YOU to decide what's best.
Perhaps asking yourself these questions will help
1. WHAT do you want him to know/understand?
2. WHY do you want him to know/understand this?
3. WILL telling him benefit you? Him? The brotherhood?
A life line, just in case
I am a firm believer in learning and exploring this experience called life, first hand. (after all, if it's not first hand, it's merely a story, blindly accepted as reality) However, I'll say this if you are still unsure.
Next time he says or does something that makes you feel the bond of the brotherhood, and I mean really FEEL it; In your mind, through your body, and within your oneness. Next time you feel that, tell him. It could be a simple "you're like a brother to me", or "You know, I love you like you were my brother" or " I love you man, you're like a brother to me" or WHATEVER.
Only YOU know what's right for YOU. YOU will sense the right moment (be it this moment, a future moment, or a moment that simply isn't meant to be) If or when the moment comes, YOU will speak the right words, with the right way of being.
Because what's meant to be, will be. Don't try to control or anticipate it. If you stop thinking about it and it's meant to be, you will FEEL it with your entirety, your oneness, and telling him will be natural, good, profound, and most importantly, GENUINE.
As many have already said you have expressed to us exactly what you want to say.
So my advise would be always maintain your integrity, as this what defines us as men. If you want to show him this affection and you feel it is the right thing to do, then do it and feel happy that you are being a true man and not taking any paths that society has laid before you.
Real men don't mind solid hugs when they have not seen each other in a while if they are chosen family. Give him a good handshake and pull him in for a hug if it appropriate. Other then that, I think the red scare removed men's ability to be affectionate to each other.
Do activities together. I think that's enough
A firm handshake, pat on the back and a tight man hug. Just watch Barack Obama and Bill Clinton and you will see affectionate straight manly behavior.