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Permalink Reply by Max B on April 22, 2013 at 4:45pm

PPFFTTT HAHAHAHAHAHA that was the most entertaining sudo-science I have ever read.

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Permalink Reply by Will on April 22, 2013 at 6:25pm

I expect xkcd has a good one by now on sudo science!

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Permalink Reply by Corey C. Jordan on January 20, 2013 at 6:15pm

You've already answered your own question... He 's like a brother to you? Display your affection for him exactly like you would do for your brother. 

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Permalink Reply by Russell Yount on January 20, 2013 at 8:54pm

As others have already pointed out, you did a good job expressing your thoughts here, so when the moment seems right, say it!

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Permalink Reply by Michael D. Denny on January 20, 2013 at 10:38pm

Is it really something that requires being articulated out loud? 

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Permalink Reply by Michael B. on January 25, 2013 at 3:58am

Tell him exactly as written here, then sucker-punch him in the nuts. It will deflate the awkwardness and replace it with a growing urge to pummel you.

 

Drunken confessions are always good, too.

 

Just don't mention how the water glistens all over his body when you go swim at the lake.

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Permalink Reply by Carl Malo Schneider on April 21, 2013 at 1:00am

Very funny...

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Permalink Reply by Austin Funk on January 25, 2013 at 5:12am

Yea man, listen to your oneness. YOU know what you want to communicate to him, the only thing standing in your way is, ironically, YOU! Based on MY life experience, I suggest you stop thinking about it. Just let it take shape in your subconscious. 

When the time is right, it will just happen naturally.

DISCLAIMER!!!

The ugly truth is the time may NEVER be right to tell him exactly as planned. Every relationship is unique, but it's common for these sorts of things to be unspoken for the most part. The silence of understanding, or the unspoken bond as some say. However, it's up to YOU to decide what's best.

Perhaps asking yourself these questions will help

1. WHAT do you want him to know/understand?

2. WHY do you want him to know/understand this? 

3. WILL telling him benefit you? Him? The brotherhood?

A life line, just in case

I am a firm believer in learning and exploring this experience called life, first hand. (after all, if it's not first hand, it's merely a story, blindly accepted as reality) However, I'll say this if you are still unsure.

Next time he says or does something that makes you feel the bond of the brotherhood, and I mean really FEEL it; In your mind, through your body, and within your oneness. Next time you feel that, tell him. It could be a simple "you're like a brother to me", or "You know, I love you like you were my brother" or " I love you man, you're like a brother to me" or WHATEVER.

Only YOU know what's right for YOU. YOU will sense the right moment (be it this moment,  a future moment, or a moment that simply isn't meant to be) If or when the moment comes, YOU will speak the right words, with the right way of being.

WHY?

Because what's meant to be, will be. Don't try to control or anticipate it. If you stop thinking about it and it's meant to be, you will FEEL it with your entirety, your oneness, and telling him will be natural, good, profound, and most importantly, GENUINE.

Peace

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Permalink Reply by Benjamin Maxwell Rogers on January 28, 2013 at 5:28am

As many have already said you have expressed to us exactly what you want to say.

So my advise would be always maintain your integrity, as this what defines us as men. If you want to show him this affection and you feel it is the right thing to do, then do it and feel happy that you are being a true man and not taking any paths that society has laid before you.

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Permalink Reply by David F. on January 28, 2013 at 9:59am

Real men don't mind solid hugs when they have not seen each other in a while if they are chosen family.  Give him a good handshake and pull him in for a hug if it appropriate.  Other then that, I think the red scare removed men's ability to be affectionate to each other.

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Permalink Reply by Salmon on January 28, 2013 at 11:24am

Do activities together. I think that's enough

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Permalink Reply by Marty on January 28, 2013 at 11:34am

A firm handshake, pat on the back and a tight man hug.  Just watch Barack Obama and Bill Clinton and you will see affectionate straight manly behavior.

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