Long story short;

Getting married in less then four weeks; One year away from an Applied Science degree in human services, stuck in a child care providers jobs. (Been employed there since 2008)

Question; as a man (I'm going on 25 if you need to know) working in child care is personally degrading, professionally a grave yard, and well you name it, its there... This is not a profession for a married man much less any man to be in for the amount of years I have been there.

What kind of work can I get into that is secure right now? My wife and I agreed to get married under the current situation, but I understand the need to be a man and do other work.

The full details do not be given; I am just asking for some advice of the type of work a non college graduate with only child care providing skills can do? I will stay employed but need to do something else within at least a year to lead my family and leave the field. 

OTR is not a great option as a Christian man who wants to be home with his wife... though I have considered it.

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What kinds of professions does a human services degree lead you into? I thought it was job placement, social work, human resources management - basically, the professionals that answer your kind of question, and also have to enforce laws against gender discrimination, even in the childcare professions.

If you're working full-time while in school, I assume you're at a commuter school or community college or some other "non-traditional" format. Your school should have resources for you. Ask the people in that office. I'd focus on jobs that will use your degree. For a lot of entry-level jobs, the difference between "one year away from" a degree and a completed degree is 0. This is a CNN headline today.

What's "OTR"?

If you want decent pay, you need a skill. 

I suggest you identify something you'd like doing that has decent pay, and train for it.  That is:  the place to start is not "what can I get?" but "where do I want to go?"  So:  what do you like doing?

OTR = Over The Road

You are in college and working on a degree so your past experience does not really make a big difference when looking for a job. You need to focus on the positives. Not many people looking for a job out of college will have experience already working in that job. What you do have is a track record of constant work in a field that required lots patience and being able to get along with many different types of people who bring their kids for you to watch. When talking with future employers you need to highlight what you learned from previous positions you have had. In college I worked as a lifeguard and a referee and learned leadership, patience and commitment.

If I were hiring someone out of college I would not hold it against them that they worked a lowly job for 5 years while they were in college. I would be more likely to look down on someone who didn't do any work while in college.

There is no such thing as honest work that is beneath a man.  There are a lot of people taking welfare at the moment who could be working but who won't because they feel flipping burgers, child care, toilet scrubber is too demeaning for them. At the moment it sounds like the bigger picture is you marriage (congrats, by the way). Next up is your nearly achieved degree. So you got a muddle-through job. Big deal! Most men have done that from time to time. Go on and get married then graduate then go up a few rungs of the workforce ladder. That's kind of how life works.

Why is it degrading to take care of kids?

Chief you’re getting heavy in your own head. I have never worked in child care but have a child. Why would I respect a man working in childcare any less than a man working anywhere else? If you’re a good role model what’s the issue? Blanket advice – Not happy in your career? Change it. Apply the time working with kids and the degree to social work surrounding kids. Maybe helping troubled kids, nothing more powerful than changing the future for the better.

What do you do for this child care provider? You can ask if it is possible for you to help with some additional responsibilities like billing. This gives you more duties to put on your resume and shows that you were able to be a contributing member of the staff and worked your way upward.

Thank you men. I was getting heavy in my thought process. I will use my skills and keep pushing forward but that was never questioned in my thought process. What it comes down to is inward fear of gaining a degree and not being employable. Fear is weakness and first as a Christian, second as a man, third as a husband, does not belong in my vocabulary and I must rid it from my vocabulary.

Thank you for the wisdom men and your kind words.

@ Vytauta: 

It is degrading in the form of respect from outsiders, but no need to draw a complaint. My five year stint has been rewarding in many ways. I only hope my work in college and life will lead to me being able have my wife be an at home mom in less then five years. 

My career goals is to move forward in education to one day attain a masters in divinity, and in the process find my nitch in social work, to work hard unto the glory of God; also to love, honor, serve my wife.

At Paul of Texas it is possible; I am in the process of earning my administration credentials for early child hood. This will and is providing skills of business.

What you men recommend for a four year program?

The question of what major to get, whether you will like the job once you're in it (!), &c., are good questions to take to a college:  either the career development center, or the appropriate department.  I don't know which one's appropriate.  

If you want a master's in divinity, well, you've got 2 major programs to work in.  I won't pooh-pooh your wish to study what matters to you!  I wonder if they can be combined?  One of my college friends went to seminary to become a psychological counselor.

...and what does God want for you in all this?  Another worthy q.

http://money.usnews.com/careers/best-jobs/child-and-family-social-w...

I'm not too surprised:  they say you really need a master's to progress.  Pay is not great but not always awful.

I think you are hitting the same trip I did with my wife when we where discussing marriage.  She grew up with a single parent.  She expected to work professionally and have a outside the home career.  I was and am fine with that.  We agreed to follow the career of who ever had the best options.  I also realized and told her that I really did mean I would follow her career if she had the better earnings but it probably would take an adjustment because I grew up with my father working outside the home and my mother working inside the home for their career.

Given your upbringing and given the impending marriage call it what it is.  Self inflicted head games.  Know that you have triggers that will trip due to your upbringing and beleafs.  It is fine but when they trip make sure they are tripping for the right reasons.  Also pay attention if it is a short term situation for along term gain.  Many careers have started with the wife supporting the husband through education that lead to a much better life later on.  You are a team with your beloved, trust your life mate with income if that is what you both need to make a better life long term.

BTW I could not do daycare work.  I am not mentally and emotionally strong enough for that.  To do what you do day after day.  Lots of Manly props to you.    

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