Some of us live in small apartments or condos and, as of yet, still don't have the space to have a man cave. For those of you like me, what's the most masculine thing you have in your home? Is it a constant struggle with your wife to incorporate things that are both masculine and feminine in your decorating?
My most masculine things on display are my DE Razor, brush and stand, my guitars, one of my own paintings, and a coat rack full of hats and scarves.
At first my wife was very hesitant to incorporate both masculine and feminine objects. She's an interior designer and thougth she had everything pretty well planned out. But, she's slowly and steadily coming to realize the value of my decorating input and is liking the masculine tidbits I add to the home. I'll know I'm in when I have a moose head in the living room though.
My fiancee is really good about letting me have the second bedroom to put up all my old corps of cadets pictures, diploma, have my books, my xbox etx. Plus she really does want and value my opinon on what we do with the rest of the house, and has allowed some of my more antique type things even in the dining room(old bar cabinet, old pachinko machine)
Well, I live with my fiancee. We have a tiny one-bedroom apartment. When we move, however, The extra bathroom has been pre-determined to be my shave-den and the extra bedroom may be divided down the middle or more storage than anything.
Haha, I should really do that. Shes relatively sane, and shes my type of insane. I don't think we'll have a problem. She still doesn't understand the benefit of personal space. She sees me wanting a bastion of manliness as me wanting to be able to get away from her. I'm working on that though.
No room in our condo for a dedicated manly space at this point. Too many darn kids taking up all the bedrooms! Luckily, my wife isn't into very feminine decorating. I've got a really nice leather reading chair and our furniture is rustic and pretty masculine. I do look forward to the day I can actually have my own space. We have a one stall garage which I'd like to spiff up come summertime, though I'm not a car guy. Mostly I want to get some good storage space put in for camping gear. Still won't qualify as a true man space though. That's going to have to wait until we can either afford a bigger place, or my now 14-year old son moves out and frees up a bedroom.
All I have is my bedroom, as I still live with my parents, but I'd like to think it's got all the essentials.
On the far wall is a painting of a Canadian Spitfire fighting in the second world war, above it is a bollock dagger, and a fake blunderbuss. To the left of those are hangers for my paintball guns, but those are almost never up there, as I use them for paintball things.
To the right of the painting is a sword, and to the left of the painting is a guitar chord chart.
On another wall, I have all three of my guitars, and a amp. Most of the wall is taken up by an ample bookshelf, which is too small now.
In front of me, is my desk, which I made myself, my computer, and my calendar. Above those is a shelf with a few random goodies on it, including the all important back scratcher. Also on the wall are two rock slings I made myself, and a gum ball machine.
Then on another wall, is a painting of 3 Orca's breaching by Graeme Ellis, and three shelves. On one shelf is a plastic toy Aircraft Carrier from when I was younger, a Lego Destroyer, and a brass spyglass. Hanging on the wall separately from all of those is a 103 year old 1907 pattern bayonet, ala charge of the light brigade, which I bought at a local gun show for 200 bucks.
One of the benefits of being so young, is that as long as I keep it clean, my mom doesn't care what I do with my room.
I also live with my mother and share my room with my younger brother. There's no space for me to have a room for myself but, after we had some changes done in the house, I noticed some space big enough for a desk, some books- although my books are all over the house- and all my papers: perfect for sitting down and getting things done.
I'll have to clarify that a little bit. My wife isn't overly feminine in her design. She's actually pretty neutral with a few feminine tidbits thrown in here and there, and just never had to consider how a home would represent a man as well. She's coming along just fine.
Broadcasting from my new man space:
I made an expedition to my house's storage room and found a desk! Just dragged it into my room and cleaned it up. My man space is not great yet but I know it will be. This will be the place were things get done.
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