My height (Or lack of) has always been a bit of a problem for me. I am 5ft 6in and always thought I would grow taller but I highly doubt that will happen now. I am 21 years old on Saturday 14th so I believe my growth stage is over. (My father is around 5ft 7in and my 2 older brothers  are around 5ft 8in - 5ft 9in)

Because of my short height I don't feel particularly manly (Maybe also my young age is part of that as well) My biggest problem is when I am in public and see other men walking around and about 90% of them are taller than me and look way more of a "man" than I do.

I look up to other short guys (No pun intended) such as Scott Caan as he is someone who is manly and still attractive to the ladies even though he is short.   

I just feel like, how am I meant to compete against taller manlier men especially when trying to get a girlfriend. (Am I right in thinking most girls want a tall boyfriend?)

My question is does anybody have any advice on just feeling manlier or if there are any other short men out there who have no problem feeling manly? 

Thanks in advance for any suggestions and advice. 

(If there are any other posts similar to mine than I apologise as I didn't check first) 

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I am 5'6, and except for a couple of years in high school and shortly after, I've never worried much about my height.  My wife says it was certainly not a factor in her interest toward me when we first met and a bit later when we began dating.  Trust me, your height is not going to matter much to the girl you  you'll eventually fall in love with one day.  There are just some things about our bodies that are far beyond our ability to do anything about.  Trust me, I know!  My advice to you is to just accept it and focus on the physical aspects that you can actually do something about, such as staying fit.  How tall a guy is does not determine whether he's a man or not or how manly he is.  It's cool, but height does not make the man.

You can't control your height.  Focus on things you can control.  You'll feel manlier when you act manlier ... no matter how short you are.

I'm barely 5'10" with cowboy boots on.  Never really had trouble with women.  Might be different if most women are taller than you, though.  Not sure.  Womens' taste differ as much as men's ... but most women do seem to like men that are taller than they are.  I think you're taller than most women, though.


Be careful about overcompensating.  You don't want to be one of those sawed-off little fellas that is a complete asshole because he's trying compensate for lack of height.

JB

Am I the only one that assumed JB was 10' tall? 

Heh.  My mother is 4'11" ... so there was never any chance of me breaking 6'.

I love going to Christmas at my maternal Grandmother's house, though ... its like being at an Asian airport.  At 5'9", I tower over most everybody.  None of the women are taller than 5'3" (most are from 4'10" to 5'1"), and most of the men range from 5'3" to 5'7".  My younger brother is an outlier at 5'11" ... and I'm second tallest among blood relatives.

Guess its a good thing that I leave a big impression, though.

JB

Funny, I sometimes envy shorter guys. 

You can stand with each other, look each other in the eye (more or less). I always envied that intimacy you all seem to enjoy that I don't get most of the time because of my height.

It only exacerbates feeling apart.

How tall are you, Carl?

6' 2"

That was my Dad's height and my goal height, definitely not too far up there man. 

You have a goal height?

JB

I have to say that's a little weird. Or was that in hopes of the big shoes-big wang ratio being true? 

Did I really sound serious about it, either? C'mon now. 

Yeah, I'd like to be 6'2". Most of the guys my age have a height they want to hit? I don't know if it's a generational thing or what.

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