My height (Or lack of) has always been a bit of a problem for me. I am 5ft 6in and always thought I would grow taller but I highly doubt that will happen now. I am 21 years old on Saturday 14th so I believe my growth stage is over. (My father is around 5ft 7in and my 2 older brothers  are around 5ft 8in - 5ft 9in)

Because of my short height I don't feel particularly manly (Maybe also my young age is part of that as well) My biggest problem is when I am in public and see other men walking around and about 90% of them are taller than me and look way more of a "man" than I do.

I look up to other short guys (No pun intended) such as Scott Caan as he is someone who is manly and still attractive to the ladies even though he is short.   

I just feel like, how am I meant to compete against taller manlier men especially when trying to get a girlfriend. (Am I right in thinking most girls want a tall boyfriend?)

My question is does anybody have any advice on just feeling manlier or if there are any other short men out there who have no problem feeling manly? 

Thanks in advance for any suggestions and advice. 

(If there are any other posts similar to mine than I apologise as I didn't check first) 

Tags: Advice, Height, Manliness, Short

Views: 4161

Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

I am 5'6, and except for a couple of years in high school and shortly after, I've never worried much about my height.  My wife says it was certainly not a factor in her interest toward me when we first met and a bit later when we began dating.  Trust me, your height is not going to matter much to the girl you  you'll eventually fall in love with one day.  There are just some things about our bodies that are far beyond our ability to do anything about.  Trust me, I know!  My advice to you is to just accept it and focus on the physical aspects that you can actually do something about, such as staying fit.  How tall a guy is does not determine whether he's a man or not or how manly he is.  It's cool, but height does not make the man.

You can't control your height.  Focus on things you can control.  You'll feel manlier when you act manlier ... no matter how short you are.

I'm barely 5'10" with cowboy boots on.  Never really had trouble with women.  Might be different if most women are taller than you, though.  Not sure.  Womens' taste differ as much as men's ... but most women do seem to like men that are taller than they are.  I think you're taller than most women, though.


Be careful about overcompensating.  You don't want to be one of those sawed-off little fellas that is a complete asshole because he's trying compensate for lack of height.

JB

Am I the only one that assumed JB was 10' tall? 

Heh.  My mother is 4'11" ... so there was never any chance of me breaking 6'.

I love going to Christmas at my maternal Grandmother's house, though ... its like being at an Asian airport.  At 5'9", I tower over most everybody.  None of the women are taller than 5'3" (most are from 4'10" to 5'1"), and most of the men range from 5'3" to 5'7".  My younger brother is an outlier at 5'11" ... and I'm second tallest among blood relatives.

Guess its a good thing that I leave a big impression, though.

JB

6'1" and not the tallest in my family.

Funny, I sometimes envy shorter guys. 

You can stand with each other, look each other in the eye (more or less). I always envied that intimacy you all seem to enjoy that I don't get most of the time because of my height.

It only exacerbates feeling apart.

How tall are you, Carl?

6' 2"

That was my Dad's height and my goal height, definitely not too far up there man. 

You have a goal height?

JB

I have to say that's a little weird. Or was that in hopes of the big shoes-big wang ratio being true? 

Did I really sound serious about it, either? C'mon now. 

RSS

Latest Activity

J. D. replied to Andrew's discussion Interesting Article: 'Men Suck At Friendship'
"In my experience, I have found it to be true that most men really do suck at friendship in a big way.  I don't pretend to understand why or have a grasp on all the personal and social issues and pressures that may or may not be…"
8 minutes ago
Jones joined Colton Wilson's group
Thumbnail

Boyhood Restored

I believe that boys should use their time primarily to prepare for manhood. This group is for young men, dads, and other men who have opinions they'd like to share on how boys should grow up or be raised.
1 hour ago
John Muir replied to John Muir's discussion Bulk Shopping For Staples
"I drink a lot of probiotic yogurt and pop the fiber pills... I don't want to get too gross but suffice to say that were my toilet to write a customer review on Amazon, it would say "The package arrived on time and in the desired…"
1 hour ago
John Muir replied to Andrew D, USA Ret's discussion Militias, politics, anti-2nd amendment hysteria and the Bundy issue in the group The Great Debate
"There was no mockery in my reply to your bizarre, paranoid, flat-out wrong description of the circumstances surrounding the closure of the refinery. Just facts 'n' stuff.  I really think you should get "men skilled in the…"
2 hours ago
Pale Horse replied to Andrew D, USA Ret's discussion Militias, politics, anti-2nd amendment hysteria and the Bundy issue in the group The Great Debate
"I'll see your Grayson and raise you a Wasserman-Schultz."
2 hours ago
Vytautas replied to Zachary Gougar's discussion Greek help in the group The Philhellenes
"What verbs or nouns specifically are you wrestling with?"
3 hours ago
Andrew D, USA Ret replied to Andrew D, USA Ret's discussion Militias, politics, anti-2nd amendment hysteria and the Bundy issue in the group The Great Debate
"Amazing, Johnny - something we can agree on."
3 hours ago
Andrew D, USA Ret replied to Andrew D, USA Ret's discussion Militias, politics, anti-2nd amendment hysteria and the Bundy issue in the group The Great Debate
"J.L.P:  "In contrast to you, I could not possibly care less about your opinion of me. Positive or negative." On the contrary, Johnny.  You crave attention.  You are just as narcissistic as you claim Josh to be, and who you…"
3 hours ago

© 2014   Created by Brett McKay.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service