What are your thoughts of being friends/making new friends of the opposite gender when in a committed relationship?

I'm having trouble defining if this is ok or not and if it is, under what circumstances exactly...?

For instance...Talked to a new female coworker who has same interests, drop the fact right away that I'm with a girl who I think is great and I'm not a single man. Coworker says "Well you're a cool dude, let's hang out sometime and bring your gf along." She asks for number under that context and I give it to her.

Yet I feel guilty for some reason...Why? Just the act of giving my number to a girl in an 1-on-1 conversation felt like pushing a boundary.

If this girl from work txts me anything outside of the context of work or sports then I will just tell her sorry but I don't wish to disrespect my girlfriend by talking to another girl on my personal time.

Just not sure why this seems like a tricky subject.

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There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex. They exist and they are people like you. It shouldn't be a problem with her unless you devote more time to your friend than your girlfriend or message her constantly. Almost all my friends are guys and any boyfriend I have has to get used to it. Not every person's intentions are sex related. It would be a huge insult to me if someone I was with had a problem with it. To me that is saying that I can have no intentions beyond those that are sexually primitive. She shouldn't think that of you. 


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