So I am 18 and a freshman in college, and my girlfriend wanted to take a break from our relationship as we entered university. No big deal, but lately I have been feeling rather anxious to talk to her, but I don't feel right about it. She said is looking for time to figure out her life, but I can't stop thinking about her.

I just want to know if I should just find something to forget about the whole scenario, or pursue a friendship with her at the moment?

(We have not spoken in about a month)

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Pursuing a friendship won't make you feel better.  Don't bother.


JB

my girlfriend wanted to take a break from our relationship as we entered university = she wanted to bang other dudes without feeling guilty.

It's over, move on.

If you're unsure, it must not be a strong desire.  But if you are sure ("can't stop thinking about her")... Might look up that post on AoM's main site, stop hanging out with women and start dating them.

It's over. I know this is anecdotal, and there are exceptions... but EVERY relationship that I've seen that has at one point "taken a break" has ended permanently, and ended BADLY.

You're young, and entering a pivotal point in your life. You're about to meet a TON of new people, and you will change very much as a person. The same goes for her. You're going to grow up, and grow apart, and spend your time with other people. Soon enough, this won't even be a big deal.

Also, I don't want to put my chips on this because I don't know the situation exactly, but Nathanael may be on to something... there may be other guys in the picture. She might be wondering what it's like to be single and experimental in a time like college -- either way, she doesn't sound very dedicated.

My resounding, 100% confident advice is to move on. Grab life by the horns, dude. You've got a wild 4 years ahead of you, and don't need someone like that slowing you down.

Here's how it ends well; don't be a douche.  "I want/we should take a break from the relationship" is code for, "I've only ever known you and if you're not going to be around I know I'll want to try out other cock to see how it fits so I'm letting you know now".

Treat this time like your favorite pair of jeans you accidentally left home when you went to college.  They're your favorite, but you don't have them now and you're going to try on other pairs, and even wear those other pairs for a bit.  You'll think longingly about your favorite you left at home though.  You'll call home and ask if they're still around or if they've been thrown out.  When you do go home, you'll find them again and put them on.  And here's where it happens (because you're on a break), you'll have one of four outcomes:

1) You'll find their the perfect pair and the perfect fit and you never want to leave home without them again.

2) You'll wonder WTF you were thinking (skinny jeans, really?).

3) You'll realize they're nice, but not something you want anymore.

4) You'll discover they were perfect for that time in your life, and maybe again years from now when they come back in style, but for now, they go back in the box.  Oh sure, whenever you go back home you'll pull them out and wear them around the old neighborhood.  But, eventually you'll leave again, and before you do you'll place them somewhere safe.

From time to time people will ask you about those old jeans.  You'll respond by looking up and to the left, smile, and say "They were cool, we had some great times together".  And if you've had option four, you won't even need to wonder where they got off to.

Thanks for all the advice. I guess I just need to get my mind off of it

You are a freshman in college and on a break. You are in the best time in your entire life to meet women, you don't even have to have superior "game". Forget her in the arms of other women, turst me, she has forgotten you in the arms of other men.

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