The most difficult thing about being young is that you need to make decisions, and you have no idea what you are going to want later in life.
Some girls preferring guys in their 30s to guys in their 20s might have less to do with the older guys' economic resources, career status and potential for being a provider and more to do with the younger guys acting like a bunch of douche bros. I'm generalizing of course and economics are surely a factor in most relationships but the fact is that when girls leave highschool, they don't want to date highshool boys yet a lot of guys in their 20s still act like highschool boys.
Given the choice, I'd take the 30s. I was an idiot in my 20s. Marginally less so now that I'm half-way through my 30s. Digging your way out of prior stupidity is enlightening.
I've been with my now-wife since I was 19, was married for most of my 20s (married at 23), and had kid(s) for almost half of my 20s (daughter born when I was 26). So, the family situation ain't that much different between my 20s and 30s. Had a good enough time in college, I guess ... but I was plenty ready to get out. Always hated parties. Spent too much time and too much money on school. Too much spending, not enough earning. Priorities were out-of-whack. Common stupidity.
Now that I'm in my 30s ... I've been married over a decade, have three kids, make more than I spend, and am on my way to digging out of the hole I buried myself in during my 20s. By 40, I'll be done with that (or reasonably close). The wife and I are looking forward to that.
As children and teenagers we worry a lot about what is or isn't cool. In you 20's you are not far removed from that way of thinking; many still focus solely on being cool in their 20's. It is difficult to spend over a decade thinking a certain way and then change all of a sudden. You have new independence and you think everything is going to work out.
By the time you get to your 30's you have more experience. You also are further removed from worrying about what is cool and have moved on to living in the real world. You acknowledge that you have flaws, your spouse has flaws and your friends have flaws but it's okay because you are also more accepting of those flaws. Basically you have stopped worrying about cool and now see things in a more realistic light; it is what it is and you live with it.
I've never really spent a lot of time focusing on being cool at all. I suppose this is to do with the fact I knew I was uncool anyway. I'm 22 and the idea of being cool or trendy has never crossed my mind. Or perhaps it has and I've just not been thinking it in terms of cool or uncool, heh.
You hit the nail on the head Art. School of hard knocks is tough but if I had to do it over again I would't change any decisions.
This is tough, 30's because of all the lessons learned in my 20's. However if i could have all of the energy from my 20's with the decision making from the 30's this would be awesome......I WOULD BE UNSTOPPABLE!!!
30's for sure, you know what really is important in life, you have more patience, and you have a larger picture view of things. and you make more money.
Due to the fact that I am still in my early twenties I will see what the future brings...