Lady Blogger Wants to Know: What Do Men Actually Want for Christmas?

I know AoM has a great set of posts on gifts for men, but there is nothing on any of their lists that my husband would enjoy. (At least nothing I haven't already gotten him.) I like to buy or make meaningful or useful gifts, but he seems unimpressed.

So, here's the question: what general principles could I use to figure out what a man actually wants for Christmas?

I'm especially interested to hear from men who are masculine, but who aren't the outdoorsy "man's man" the AoM list seems perfect for.

Thanks for all the help you've been in the past! Thanks to you, women know how to help their husbands be better dads and how to tell you when they are and are not interested. I really appreciate you helping me understand men better.

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Let me check my inventory:

Grenades - Check

Ammunition - Check

Coffee -


I need coffee.

Never quite sure how seriously to take your responses, Shane...

It's a very serious matter when a man with an over abundance of grenades has a shortage of coffee.

Ha!

I think I'll have to steal this Shane... Now to just wait for the perfect opportunity to work into a conversation.

Tools, Guns, Knives, Bows (ie bow and arrows), watch, Straight Razor or Nice Electric Razor, ipad, silver or gold coins.

Let me know if you need my address, as you can see you do not need my size and likely the color will not matter. Let your husband know he can thank me later at the bar.

 

 

Well what are his hobbies? For example I'm a homebrewer and an amateur astronomer. So for me new brewing equipment or eyepieces for my telescope are welcome. I love functional gifts - maybe a pair of gloves that allows the use of touch screens? I always like new watches, sweaters, etc. 

Does he read? Is he a history buff? How about good biographies? Maybe a good miniseries that he hasn't seen yet. 

^ No

How well do you know his hobbies?  How well do you know his occupation?  How well do you understand the tools of his trade?  Do you know what quality is?  Do you know what his definition of quality is?  Do you know what his definition of overpriced is?  Do you know how many domestic abuse cases began with the phrase, "The man at the store said..."?

You know that store he's always wandering into, but never really buying anything in?  Get him a gift certificate for there.  Second best gift, figure out what he does to relax, and MAKE him do it.  But only, if it's for a limited time frame.  A weekend fishing trip, fine.  An afternoon watching a game, fine.  A night out with his buddies at the bar, fine.  A new shop/study/hobby center = pressure to relax.  Third best, a subscription, either to magazines, or a book club, in a topic he's interested in.  It will allow him to relax, without the pressure to relax.

THAT is what I was saying. Ask, find out what his hobbies are and such.

Back when we were still dating my wife gave me a subscription to National Geographic. One of the best gifts I've gotten since I was a kid.

If you keep an eye on what magazines he reads, the advertisements he looks at, the television shows (This Old House, etc.) he watches, you'll get an idea of his interests. As for the advertisements and catalogs, if he consistently looks at the one's from a particular store get him a gift card to that store (unless it's the Victoria Secrets catalog and then I think you'll have a good idea as to what to get him/you lol).

I would say that I fit your description. I personally like two things: books and clothes (I'm also young so I like video games and things that only my generation would understand, but I don't think that will apply to your husband). Like the other guys who posted, look to his hobbies if you want to get a good gift. For example, I said I like clothes. For me, good Christmas gifts would be clothes that round out my wardrobe (some slacks, dressy socks, pocket squares, etc). I'm also into politics so I asked for politically themed books. I would recommend trying to round out things he already has going. It's hard to find something completely new every year, so just try to round things out in accordance with his hobbies.

Thanks for the advice!

FYI, my husband is 26. We're Millenials, too.

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