I'd like to think of myself as a gentleman and I often end up acting more like a male, but at the same time I'm very happy/comfortable being a female.
In your opinion, can a woman consider herself a gentleman? Can she follow the guidelines of what it is to be a gentleman?
What exactly do you think? Yay or nay for the lady-gentlemen, and why exactly?
By 'gentleman' I'm referring to the behavior, as in being polite and your mannerisms and such. Not so much what's in your pants, even though gentlemen happens to be a male pronoun.
And typically women who call themselves ladies are usually preppy and girly, I wouldn't say I'm extremely masculine but I'm certainly not girly.
This isn't about whatever gender I identify as, more so the general idea of women behaving as gentlemen.
+1 for Yentle.
Shane, you obviously seem to care since you keep replying
"I am seriously getting tired of new guys joining this site and getting their panties in a wad because this isn't some treehouse with a no girls allowed sign painted on the door."
If it makes you feel any better, I'm a new guy and I've no issues with women being here. The comments I've seen from the women on AoM, prior to joining, have been a refreshing break from the intensity that seems to pass for conversation in the comments sections of other pages. It's nice to see women who are interested in discussing these things.
But do you think that "gentlemanly" traits are part of the "best part of what a man" is?
I find gentlemanly traits to be traits that take certain manly traits to an extreme.
I just simply want to be a good man, I don't want to be the best man or some other ideal.
Interesting. I actually think the opposite is true. "Gentlemanly" often over-refines men -- seeking a version of man that is excessively polite, or gentle, or fashion-focused, or over-primped. I think it subdues more inherently manly traits than it emphasizes.
I think the modern 'version' of the term is what you've stated but the historic 'version' is somewhat removed from that definition.
You edited your original post to define gentleman "as being polite and your mannerisms and such". How is that any different than being a polite and mannerly lady?
This discussion caught my attention and curiosity to know how the Christians on this site were answering. I wrote something from a Christian perspective if you care to read it here. -blessings.