I'd like to think of myself as a gentleman and I often end up acting more like a male, but at the same time I'm very happy/comfortable being a female.

In your opinion, can a woman consider herself a gentleman? Can she follow the guidelines of what it is to be a gentleman?

What exactly do you think? Yay or nay for the lady-gentlemen, and why exactly?

Edit:

By 'gentleman' I'm referring to the behavior, as in being polite and your mannerisms and such. Not so much what's in your pants, even though gentlemen happens to be a male pronoun.

And typically women who call themselves ladies are usually preppy and girly, I wouldn't say I'm extremely masculine but I'm certainly not girly.

This isn't about whatever gender I identify as, more so the general idea of women behaving as gentlemen.

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Sorry, no.  "Gentleman" is a gendered term.  She can follow whatever guidelines she likes to be as "gentle" as she wants -- but she's still fails the "man" part of "gentleman".

 

I've heard the term "gentlewoman" or "gentlelady" before.  Kinda clumsy.  "Lady" is better.

 

JB

She can act as she chooses, if she chooses to follow the rules of being a gentleman, such as holding doors open for her date or pick up the tab then why not?

"Sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken." -- Tyler Durden, Fight Club

 

JB

In this case, your donut/danish analogy works better if you flip it ...  "A danish with a hole is a donut."

 

JB

Brilliant response! I couldn't agree more.

I think you're on the wrong site, good luck with your search

Why is she on the wrong site?

Art of Man-liness should say it all.

Please don't take this the wrong way but I have to ask.  Are you a lesbian?

If you are, or even if you're not, you can act the gentleman if you wish, it's up to you.  Having said that I will tell you that when you act out of the 'norm' people often react in a manner that may distress you.

My sexual orientation really doesn't have anything to do with manner I behave in.

I didn't ask your orientation to upset you or 'troll', I asked to better frame my response, I am sorry if you took offense as none was intended.

Everything you DO is a choice, including how you behave or with whomever you choose to have sex.

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