I have thought about this for awhile now since the subject of legalizing weed has been in the news. My friends want to start trying it, but I am not a fan of it there are to many consequences if you get caught. Also the fear of getting mentally addicted. The question is, is smoking weed manly? What are your thoughts?
I'm ambivalent on the topic...
However, I remember something someone said about manly behavior. As a teenager, it made me think.
"Would you be comfortable behaving that way in John Wayne's living room?"
I think it's neutral. Not good not bad.
But if you overdo it and lay around like a dog, then it's not manly
I used to smoke a lot of weed. I started in my teens, and really smoked a lot in my twenties. In my early thirties, I got into the line of work that has become my career, married my girlfriend, bought the house, had kids, etc. I had stuff to do, that was worth doing, and needed to be done with my full mind. I didn't have time to be silly for more than a few moments here or there. I didn't exactly "quit" intentionally, but I've only smoked once or twice in the past 15 years. I don't miss it a bit, and I can readily recall the state of mind and feeling when I want to. I did enjoy the time a few years ago when I was stuck in a Las Vegas hotel for a week, working daytimes, and found a joint of absolutely drop-dead weed on the carpet. But that didn't encourage me to go back to regular use. I've got stuff to do.
That said, I'll tell you what I tell my 15 year-old son. It's illegal where we live, so to get it he'll have to deal with people who have already decided to do something illegal. They may be nice people, but what else might they be willing to do or risk? It's a waste of time. Do you have much time to waste? Maybe you do, maybe you don't. That's up to you.
I don't know if smoking weed is manly or not. I do know that not getting your stuff done is not manly. And weed is not terribly conducive to getting stuff done.
Smoked a lot of it when I wasn't a man.
Seemed like a good idea at the time, now it seems not a good idea at all.
All I got was a way to spend money and have nothing to show for it.
The real answer to the question is this. Is this an activity that you would like to see your children do in youth or adulthood? A real man lives his life as an example for his children to emulate.
Neutral on the manliness of the behavior. Like every other is it manly question, it's not what you do but how you conduct yourself as you do it. On the other hand, I'm very opinionated on it being a stupid wast of time and money.
I agree with Sander- if I have a scotch to unwind after my workday, that's one thing. If I'm stumbling around drunk, unable to care for my children or fulfill my responsibilities, than it is certainly not manly. As with many things, it isn't so much the activity that is manly, it is the approach to it. Is hunting manly? Yes. I knew a guy who's dad went deer hunting every year in November- right when his birthday was. His dad missed his birthday every year until he was old enough to choose to hunt with his dad or stay home. That's not manly. When your recreational activities stand in the way of fulfilling your responsibilities as a man, you have an issue. That being said, if you're enjoying your smoke or drink or hunting excursion or baseball game or whatever and someone decides to take issue with it, you have a right to pay no heed because you've earned your rec time by first fulfilling those duties which make you a man in the first place. Its a fine line, and part of being a man is making your decisions and being confident in them. If you decide that smoking is manly, make it a conviction and don't let anyone undermine you.
I am sure there are many opinions out there, but I have never admired, looked up to, honored, respected men who smoke weed. Perhaps there is one out there I haven't met yet.
I have seen it ruin peoples lives and future. I have seen brilliant creative people lose touch with family and life because they decided that was important to them.
Sure maybe some might try to make a moral exception for this, but I don't see as how it has done anything but lower what is expected of man who does decide to smoke weed.
What a strange question. I've never thought about it, "Is any action, in and of itself, manly?" When I first read the question, I thought, "Well, I doubt that any of the ways I used to hold a joint would be viewed as manly."
Sorta like asking, "Is drinking coffee manly?"
From my perspective/use, it was fun and educational and did get me in some trouble a couple of times. Could say the same about my alcohol use. Different kind of buzz. Addictive? Not in the classic definition of addiction. Can is become a crutch so huge that it destroys your life? Absolutely.
Weed contains phytoestrogens, which suppress testosterone. You could make make the argument that it is unmanly because it suppresses the 'male' hormone.
No action alone is manly or not manly. The principles behind the action are what makes manly.
Have a look at various celebrities who are known to smoke pot. See if you can find old photographs. Look at their hips, their jaw-lines, their faces, their chests. Then look at recent photographs, and look at the same places. What direction are they going, more masculine-looing, or more feminine?
The effect has been documented in scientific literature, but remains controversial, probably because it's difficult for scientists to eliminate emotional bias.
Have a look and decide for yourself.