A girlfriend of my wife visited us today - so her daughter and my son (friends from the kindergarten) could play, chat and enjoy coffee-and-cake. I took part, but after a while I had to do the yard work (mowing the lawn, cutting trees and so on) and put on my workwear. It was a hot and sunny day over here and soon I worked up a sweat. Usually I take my shirt off if it´s hot and I´m working outside but I wasn´t sure about it today - because of our visit. I know her husband is a landscaper, too, and I guess she probably wouldn´t have a problem with that... After half an hour my shirt was completely soaked with sweat and I decided to take it off and I went on with cutting the grass shirtless.
Do you think this is ok?
Me and a good friend of mine work a lot together (landscaping, roofing etc.). During summertime we often do that shirtless, too, and I think there´s no problem doing it. But 2 weeks ago our families met to have BBQ. After a while me and my friend decided to play some soccer matches. After getting sweaty we discussed to take the shirts off but he said, that´s probably not a good idea, because there are some ladies around...
I´m confused. What do you think? Is it inappropiate to be shirtless while there are ladies around?
Not inappropriate at all, in my opinion.
thanks... I tend to think the same.
It seems to me that at your own house it would never be inappropriate unless maybe your wife was having some kind of formal ladies get-together. Even at the park if it was a warm, sunny day and you were playing sports in a casual atmosphere like a park I do not see a problem with it. It seems like it would be more polite to the ladies and everyone else to keep your shirt from getting sweat soaked by taking it off while playing and then putting it back on for the rest of the day. Sitting at a picnic with a guy in a sweat-soaked shirt is worse than no shirt at all! I don't think most ladies are really that offended - but there are always a few complainers in the group I suppose!
Yes, after having the work done I put on a shirt again while sitting next to the ladies and talk to them. I think it´d be more disgusting to keep the shirt on while soaked with sweat.
Not inappropriate at all, but it was good of you to consider your friend's concern. Like the other fellows have mentioned, a sweat-soaked shirt can be worse than going shirtless. Just to keep communication open with your friend, you may want to ask him about his concern. Maybe his wife has mentioned to him being uncomfortable around shirtless men. Otherwise, Josh, keep enjoying your shirtless work and play!
I agree with everyone else--it's always good to consider the impact of any decision, no matter how small, on others, but going shirtless is perfectly appropriate in that situation.
I agree with you all--Josh, you made the appropriate choice for the circumstances. If you wanted to try a different approach, though, you could ask the visitor if she minded if you shed the shirt--it would be very gentlemanly, and could add some humor if said in the right way.
You must be kidding. The place it is the MOST appropriate to take your shirt off in when doing outdoor work or play. If the ladies can't deal with a shirtless male, that's their problem. IMHO, America needs to lighten the f**k up!
I agree Brown. Josh is in Germany, though, maybe there are cultural differences there?
Maybe, but in these United States a man doesn't need anyone's permission to take his shirt off. Growing up it was a given that on a hot summer day if you were doing yard work the shirt came off. If you were hot and sweating and the shirt didn't come off people wondered why.
In Germany a lot of men are shirtless while doing work outside. There´s no rpoblem. Perhaps I was insecure because I know the friend of my wife from the gym - and I thought taking the shirt off is like "He just want to show his muscles to impress me. He´s a poser!".
hahaha... you´re right.