I've been invited for the 1st time to a Cocktail party, all what was mentioned in the invitation is that it's a cocktail black and white party with a Michael Jackson's picture in his moon walker outfit.
i wanted to ask what to wear for this party ? i fear to be under or over dressed .
If I was invited to a B&W part I'd think it would be at least semi-formal. But to have MJ on the invitation, has me confused. Best to ask the host/hostess what the dress is.
Thanks so much Sloan, That's EXACTLY what happened to me, MJs picture got me confused, shall i wear Formal or smart casual or go for a black Jeans and a white Shirt or a T-Shirt :-l
write the person and ask. They sent mixed signals. I read it as a black tie tux event with 80s music in the back ground / theme.
But really just write and ask. They will be happy to know you are interested and want to match the tone they wish to set.
Sloan, Nathanael,David..Thanks so much guys, i'll email the hosts and ask about the dress code for the party, didn't think of that to be honest.
That is always best. According to my etiquette guru (Ms. Groskamp-ten Have) it is the hosts job to make sure you know how to dress. That's why they invented dress codes. Like David F. said, 'cocktail'-dress is black tie for men, cocktail-dresses (duh) for women.
In modern times however, one can never be absolutely sure and assumption is the mother of all .... ... Surely the host will be absolutely delighted that you will take the time to ask him or her what is expected.
The main problem is that our generation(s) have not actually read the books on proper etiquette. They hear terms and think they are using them correctly but do not check that their idea matches the definition for the term.
I heard/read somewhere that in WWII books where in high demand in the trenches even etiquette books so the men read then and took that knowledge home and put it into practice if they lived.
Yes, it has become extremely confusing. I once got a wedding invitation that said the 'dress is wedding casual'. No one knew what that meant. Unfortunately it was a competitive matrilineal family so the women wouldn't dare inquire.
You are welcome, I would also love to know the answer from the host. Just out of curiosity.
I'd say wear a red leather jacket and a white glove.
Solid white white tie. White coat. White bowtie. White shoes. White top hat. White cane with concealed blade. Gold pocket watch. If it's wrong, just joke about how "ironic" you're being.
This is probably why people don't invite me to parties anymore.
You forgot the monacle.