I've decided that my circle of guy friends needs a higher dose of manliness on a somewhat regular basis. I was talking with an aquaintance during a concert recently (yeah, it was that good) and we got on the subject of Scotch Whisky, how to properly nose it, what type of glass to use etc. and it dawned on us that we need a proper face-to-face venue where men can discuss such things (without being told to "shut-up" by the one guy actually listening to the music).

We decided that we wanted to institue a "Scotch and Steak" night where we would invite a short list of guys who we think could appreciate all things manly, and do so on a semi-regular basis. However, aside from the Scotch-tasting and steak-eating, I'm not sure what else to include for the inaugural S&S night or if it's even necessary to plan it out. I'm trying to stay away from the cliche poker or televised sports event type deal, but I don't want to do "too much too soon."

So far, I've thought about having a semi-formal dress code and maybe providing some Opinel pocket knives as "party favors." Anyone else have any ideas? What's your idea of a proper Gentlemen's Night?

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I am confused, do you want a gentlemans night or a 'manly' night?

We always try to get together once a week, most of our wives encourage it(with the exception of one who thinks she is a guy, which she isn't). Usually it is just to work on cars, and on Wednesdays. Other times it is on a Saturday to watch football, or go shooting.

You don't have to make everything formal and perfect, just try to get together often and do something fun. Heck, we even did a night at one of the local watering holes to try out some of their 50 or 90 or so different bourbons

If I was invited out and there were party favors, I would more then likely not go. Just isn't my scene, almost sounds forced. But that is me and the guys I prefer to hang out with.
This is a good point, Lee. I get the whole "forced" feeling and I wouldn't want it to be that way. But since the invitees are spread out all over the Tri-State area, it's tough to just hang out after work on a weekday. I guess the long term goal is to establish a loose kind of guys club with camping, hunting, shooting, drinking and general BS'ing as the usual activities. My thoughts were that the inaugural meeting should be somewhat more formal (otherwise it'd probably never happen) and we can see where it goes from there.
I like the idea. We can all go to a bar and drink with our friends, or have the fellas over to watch the game, but a true gentelmans night sounds interesting. Also, it doesn't need to turn into another bachelors party, but something a bit more refined. I like the idea of the pocket knives to add something special for your innagural evening, but would just call it a gift. I also like the idea of the dress code. Adds a bit of Fraternity to the occassion.

Very Good Idea, Sir.
Here is what three of my buddies and I have done for about the last year:

We get together once a month and the reponsibility of planning the night rotates between us. We always have dinner (so we can talk) and then do something else. What we have done so far:
- Comedy club
- Shoot pool
- Drank scotch
- Drank grappa
- Drank wine
- Drank vodka
- Watched movies
- Checked out new neighborhoods in Seattle

We have instituted a rule that the "host of the night" will educate us about something. The start of that was the grappa. It is something that I look forward to because it is an opportunity to spend time with some real men, which is rare these days.
Preston, this is exactly the type of thing I was thinking of! Was it an instant hit or did it take a while for everyone to be "into" it?
Prior to this, I would get together with a buddy of mine for lunch on a monthly basis since we never found time to hang out since we are both married, have kids, and don't live close to each other. We talked about doing a guys night out and we both invited another guy, and the four of us have gotten together consistently since. It is a great thing to look forward to each month, a way to bond with other men, and grow if done well.
Preston, what really caught my attention with this one was the host's duty to educate. That's a brilliant idea that seems sure to stimulate discussion and further activities. What else have you learned from this? How formalized is the arrangement?
The education part we just started doing and it is informal. We've done it twice. The second one was one of the guys telling us about his trip to Europe. We have all been there, but he spent some time on the Amalfi coast where the rest of us had not been. We do plan to tighten it up a bit but won't ever require powerpoint.
I myself have considered starting a small, private, Men only club. A library, fireplaces, an open bar, a couple/three big screen tvs', private cigar lockers, wing back leather chairs, private wine refrigerators and liquor lockers, a dozen or so laptop computers, chess boards, poker tables, achingly pretentious art, that sort of thing. Entirely private, membership by invite, approval by vote, limited number of members, yearly dues, the works. In an upstairs flat on the waterfront in Washington, NC. I'd attempt to use the membership numbers in order to make certain perks happen for members, discounts at a few Gentlemens' clothing stores, cheaper than otherwise available wine and cigars, fine crystal, etc.

The Greater Beaufort County Gentlemans' Association.

Seriously considering it.
That is, if slightly too posh for my taste and wallet, like a remarkable idea.
It will be the maid service in French maid outfits who come in early evenings to clean up and put the books away that will REALLY sell it. lol
Sign me up!!!

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