How much time spent on dressing and grooming is too much time? Are there reasonable time limits on this aspect of a man's life, such as for dressing, showers, doing hair, teeth and so on?

I have a confession to make. In order to save time and energy, I minimize time on all of these activities except for poops (I consider that my special relaxation/get away from the world time).

I like to read boxing mags and stuff when I am in there, so it takes some chunk of my day (like half an hour or more sometimes). But in other areas, I do it quickly and I think effectively. In fact I don't even shower everyday.

So, do you guys think you should speed things up in the bathroom and in the hygiene department in the name of efficiency, such as I do? Or am I basically in the wrong here? I mean, we don't want to spend an hour plus on our hair like women do right?

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That completely depends on how much your appearance and cleanliness is 'worth' to you, how much time your hygiene and appearance takes, and how much your time is 'worth' to you. 

I can't imagine spending an hour on my hair every day, but I don't suspect women to do that either. However, if I've got a big day or evening coming up, I will start way in advance doing things to make sure I look good. For instance: My hair looks it's best 2 days after completely washing it out, and starts to turn bad after about 5 days. As I take great pride in my appearance, it's no problem at all to take the time to think about that. Same goes with facial hair. 

As for not showering: I would stink if I wouldn't shower. You maybe don't, but I do. I take at least one shower a day, but they last 5 minutes mostly. Then again, I don't poop for half an hour. 

What I'm saying is: There is no upper or lower limit of time to spend on dressing and grooming, as long as your happy with the way it is. (unless you start to stink of course) If you are happy wearing a T-shirt, you need less time than if your happy picking a suit, a shirt and a tie to go together.  I streamline the process by thinking in the shower, but I LIKE the process. It's not a chore, it's a hobby. If you think of it as a chore, then you might want to think of ways to speed things up. 

Very enlightening and insightful response in this post. I guess that if it feels like a chore, you do speed it up, but if you enjoy it as a process, then you tend to spend more time with it.

I agree with you. It is worth a lot to me to take my time getting rolling in the morning.  I listen to the BBC World News Podcast, have a cup of coffee, take my time shaving, etc, which allows me to start my day in a joyful, “can deal with the world”,  frame of mind. 

I can be ready in 20 min but it is not how I like to start the day.

I do believe there's a difference between grooming and preening, and that preening isn't a healthy sign for a guy. By that I mean a sign of mental health. Witness the peacocks of, for example, "The Jersey Shore," meticulously styling their frosted hair into perfect spikes, tweezing around their nipples. In my estimation that's vain and effeminate.

Still, some attention to appearance is worthwhile, if not for ourselves, then for our ladies, or as a sign of respect in our workplaces. Besides, you won't find a Marine with a three-day growth or neglected, dirty fingernails; on him that polish is a sign of discipline, not vanity.

I spend about a half hour a day. Got the routine down pretty well. Hair's quick business - towel dry, a dollop of Wildroot Cream Oil - shaving takes more time and is more a meditative exercise. Once a week, trim the nails and nostril hairs, and so forth. But again, during that time I'm not congratulating myself on how girly smooth my chest is, I'm taking the time to reflect on yesterday and think through today.

Nope, I couldn't get away with showering every other day, either.


Quite right! A military man probably sees it as proper maintenance of his body. Clipping nails is the same thing as shining boots. 

I don't think I spend more than half an hour a day, and like you said, it's meditative. Grooming and dressing makes me concentrate on a very simple task, thus clearing my head (passively reflecting too).

I have no idea how much time these Jersey guys spend on their grooming, but I do know that I think they look like idiots. No amount of time should be spent on looking like an idiot, unless it's for a good cause. 

FYI not one of the cast members of that show is actually from NJ, including the men. They are not Jersey guys.

Just sayin'.

Wherever they're from - that place breeds real twerps.

For me, it became a matter of sheer lack of time.  It's wonderful when I get the chance to linger a bit, rather than doing the bare minimum.

There again - I haven't been in the military, but I'd be curious to know what routine a Gyrene, Flyboy, Grunt or Swabby uses to achieve that spit-and-polish look they have. Certainly the haircut simplifies grooming for a young enlisted man, but not in the upper ranks.

It should take as long as it takes to do the job right for the circumstances.  If I am going for a job interview I'll take a great deal longer shaving and trimming than if I'm headed out to mow the lawn, where i might not do it at all.

Personally speaking, if it takes you more than half an hour from hitting the bathroom to being dressed and ready to leave the house, you are spending too much time IMO (and assuming your clothing is all ironed and ready to go)


Obviously, as others have said, if you are going on a hot date/interview or whatever, you may want to spend a bit more time making sure all the details are perfect.

Any more than a half-hour is excessive.  I can go from unshaven-and-just-mowed-the-lawn to formal attire in a half-hour.  Normally, I can roll out of bed and be in my truck driving to work within about 15-minutes ... including grabbing breakfast.  I shower at night, though.



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