Okay..this is something I've been struggling with lately. I'm overweight. And I'm working on it. But I'm tired of wearing the same clothes I've worn for years just because I have them. They look like crap. I look like I'm still in high school. I have *1* pair of khaki pants, *1* crappy pair of nicer shoes, and a few button down shirts. Everything else I have is jeans, shorts, logo t's...I'm okay with the jeans...because I know there is a way I can dress them up. How can I dress more stylish, keeping in mind that I'm a bigger man, and just generally look more age appropriate for my mid 20's, whilst also being on a budget..
Find an actor who's style you admire, and emulate it.
Also, how can I find a hairstyle that works?
Find a gay barber.
The best barber I know is straight but he gets razed about it by his male colleagues, gay and straight alike. He did an updo for a girl once going to a prom and got made fun of for it. he was new then, and he was then told by the guys in the parlour he worked in, only women and gay guys do updos.
Works how? Style? Or with your hair's texture and direction?
The answer to both is the same...find a *good* barber. Not a stylist, not a hair butcher at MegaKuttzz, but an actual barber.
Okay. Thanks. I will get on top of this.
If you still look like your avatar photo, you have a very round face. That will have to be taken into account when choosing a style. The goal of a hairstyle isn't just to look nice, but also to accentuate our positive traits, and de-accentuate our negative one. The *right* hairstyle can make a world of difference.
So, what hair styles appeal to you?
Short hairstyles, mainly, although a few longer hairstyles seem like they could be good too. And yes, my face is still round..
i really like this one
this one is nice and simple
or something nice and classic.
While we're at it, how can you find a good barber? I went on yelp, found one of the higher rater barbers, but he charged twice as much as every other barber I've found so far, and on the two occasions I attempted to go there, he was so busy I couldn't get parking. His secret got out.
The easiest way to find a barber, is to ask someone wearing a really good cut of the style you like.
Yep, just walk right up to them, compliment them, and ask where they go.
Or, take the easy road. Call the cops!
I usually approach the police when looking for a new barber. Cops live in military short hair, and my flattop is a military style, so...they're the perfect ones to ask. The police *always* know the best barbers in the area.
If you're shy, just phone their general information line...NOT 911.
Then, go into the shop, and watch their cuts. Talk to the barber. Tell him you want to change styles...set up a consultation. Get a feel for him, and for his style. You're interviewing him...before you offer him the job. And, only *if* you feel trust and like his recommendations, *then* you make the change.
In other words, take it one step at a time. The *last* step is actually cutting your hair. And, even after that, it'll probably be 2 cuts, at least, before it's tweaked to perfection...the barber will have to learn your hair's texture, direction, and even the shape of your head.
The last barber I went to totally screwed up. I'll try the "interview" tactic next time. Could I take a picture of what I want and see what they say?
Sorry to hear about the bad cut...but it does happen, occasionally. Change is never without risk. Do you have a photo? What'd he do? I actually document all my haircuts, so I can refer to them later. (Yeah, I'm weird, that way.)
As for taking photos, yes and no. I had one barber tell me, in no uncertain terms, that clients who bring photos drive him crazy...but it's not why you'd think. It's because they almost never choose a style that would actually work for their hair. A blond man with thinning and receding hair, actually brought him a photo of Johnny Depp. Yeah, that didn't turn out well.
Take 2 or 3 photos, instead, so the barber knows the *kind* of style you're looking for...what you like, and what you don't. That way, the barber can see what you like, and get some ideas, without being artificially constrained.
Have in mind, also, not which style you want, but what you expect from it... Using my flattop as an example, it's highly precise, balances out the roundness of my face, and works with my hair texture. But the tradeoff is that it requires extremely frequent maintenance, as often as weekly. Every decision has tradeoffs...that's mine.
And, lastly, remember that this whole thing is a 2-way process. If he's good, he'll be interviewing you, too. But it takes time, so call ahead. You don't want to have your consultation in the middle of his busiest time of day.