We discuss what manliness should be now; we occasionally have someone complain that manliness is too old-fashioned -- or that the modern world lacks the splendor of earlier times.
A better viewpoint is that the past can inform us, but not constrain us: we'll take what works, and leave the parts we don't want.
What are the parts of old-fashioned manhood we don't want, especially in your family or personal experience?
I'll give a few things from mine.
My grandfather once said to his entire family (at least those that were gathered): "None of you have ever seen anybody work." We knew exactly what he meant: none of us could possibly measure up to any decent standard of manly work, including his son-in-law, whose medical practice paid off the mortgage on Grandfather's farm and continued to pay his bills as needed. Work defined manhood, and it had to be done in a way that took a lot of effort to produce little. (He was also insistent, in other situations, that you couldn't work effectively if you enjoyed your work.)
Another thing about men in my family was that they were very distant, especially from each other. I called my father "the Doctor" (after it started to sound silly to call him "Daddy"), and later I found he called his father "the Reverend," to keep angry distance. My other grandfather's comment on his son was "Some people you just can't do nothing with." Son stayed around and worked on his farm; but his dad wasn't willing to grant him credit -- or talk to him about anything deeper than "I got to fix fence today."
Another thing I notice is that except for one line (my father's), the men in my family tolerate all this God stuff without any real enthusiasm. Of those alive in my family, I'd say 2 men care, and 4 don't.
Men don't teach. They expect their sons to learn everything from work habits to how to plow terraces, without a word being passed.
Another thing is that manliness is either demanded without fostering it, or else ignored. Men do not support their sons in becoming men; they just assume it will happen, or not.
I don't think any of this is atypical. But these are traditions I'm breaking in my family -- and I think many others in present day have decided to do as well.
What traditions will you break? Or keep?