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I'm boring
Yep. Basically that. I'm a bump on a log. Turd in the punch bowl. I suck. I'm boring.
Now, let me explain. I'm officially working from home, on writing and launching my online based business. I moved to a new city 3 months ago, and I've not met any new people or done any cool things since I've been here. Mainly because I'm not working a traditional job, and I don't have any ways of meeting people. So, that being said, what are some things I can do TO meet new people?
The other - I don't know what I like to do so I don't do anything, I sit at home bored. What can I do to break myself out of this rut, what hobbie should I try? Where should I go? How can I find things I like to do? I feel like a shut in. And it's making my depression worse.
Now, let me explain. I'm officially working from home, on writing and launching my online based business. I moved to a new city 3 months ago, and I've not met any new people or done any cool things since I've been here. Mainly because I'm not working a traditional job, and I don't have any ways of meeting people. So, that being said, what are some things I can do TO meet new people?
The other - I don't know what I like to do so I don't do anything, I sit at home bored. What can I do to break myself out of this rut, what hobbie should I try? Where should I go? How can I find things I like to do? I feel like a shut in. And it's making my depression worse.
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Permalink Reply by Victor E. Franklin on -
Are you saying write down things I want to learn as in a knowledge bucket list? Okay...I can do that. It'll take some deep thought, I've suppressed a lot of those desires. But okay.
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Permalink Reply by The Dutch Dastard on -
Especially as someone launching his own business it would be a good idea to go to some networking social drinks. I don't know how much there are around there, but in my city alone there are at least two a week. The idea is to simply have a drink at a nice place with a lot of people seeking out new business contacts. Because everyone is there to meet new people, the threshold of initiating contact is pretty low.
If you've initiated contact, make sure to mention that you're new in town. Someone is bound to show up and 'try to take you in' (socially). People are like that.
Another thing I've found to be quite successful in a new town is to frequent a bar. Pick a place that is 'really you' and go there, and go there a lot. Be nice (and a bit forward) to the people running the place, and you'll quickly get to know the other 'regulars'. These might not be your buddies for life, but then you can meet people through meeting people.
Oh, and for the 'boring' part and not doing anything: Watch a film called 'Yes Man'. It really really helps to say 'yes' a lot more!
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Permalink Reply by Carl Monster on -
Go hang with some artists, or easier, get an artist girlfriend who will tap you in.
Your state has a really cool art scene; the last time I ventured out west was to visit some artist friends in your area and was impressed. Looks like a lot of fun too.
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Permalink Reply by Rick Shelton on -
You have to not sit home. Get out, drive around and see what's out there.
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Permalink Reply by Gard on -
Take a walk outside, and begin to consider the things around you. Whatever you lay your eyes on, ask this question: "What am I supposed to learn from you?" Go with the first reply that comes to mind.
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Permalink Reply by Will on -
Two questions. One is about depression. See my AoM blog for my thoughts on getting out of depression.
The other is about meeting people in a new city. So: what do you like? Friendship is often about something. Church, hobby, volunteer interest?
And yes, the Japanese gardens in FW are delightful -- though they're better for a relaxing time alone than meeting people.
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Permalink Reply by Victor E. Franklin on
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Okay, I will definitely check those out. Thanks.
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Permalink Reply by Preston on -
Meetup.com (for group activities for almost any interest) or join Toastmasters. You will meet people and develop your presentation / communication skills. Also, join a gym and do group classes.
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Permalink Reply by Victor E. Franklin on
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I've done Toastmasters before, I guess there's no excuse to not be still doing it.
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Permalink Reply by Victor E. Franklin on
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Instead of starting a whole new discussion, I'll throw this on here, and hopefully y'all can lend some advice. As someone shifting from a normal job to an at home business type of thing, I need to get into a routine. I'm in the process of writing and also trying to launch a business where I'll be selling my photographs on various things. First, I need a routine. I go to bed whenever, wake up whenever, eat whenever, and sometimes my day gets lost in the doing things whenever, and then I don't get any work done (this happened today). How can I get into a routine? Secondly, how can I make that routine stick?
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