...or, I felt that way as a kid. Partly me, partly my human environment (my family didn't teach the young) and partly that it takes longer as knowledge develops, to be useful -- or so I imagined. I didn't like that it felt like all I could do was school, minor household tasks, and entertaining myself.
So as I look for a house now, I want to be sure the environment is right for my boys, as they get older, to do things they can get a sense of accomplishment from, especially things they don't have to feel completely dependent on me for. Such as:
* farming (but that takes land and tractor)
* gardening, and maybe selling the produce
* woodworking/wood finishing
* home repair or fixup -- maybe we'll get some projects together.
* engine repair -- although I know too little to mentor
What did you do when you were child or teen -- or what do you think would work for this purpose? It need not be anything like the things I listed.
All I have to say to my grandsons is, "Hey, Guys, Papa needs you to dig some holes out in the garden so that we can plant the new flowers we bought." Or, in the fall, "Boys, it's time to go seed collecting." They know that we will gather our little plastic "medicine bottles" and strip the seeds out of the cleome seed pods, shake the seeds out of the coreopsis flower "kegs," crack open the angel blush seed pods, and the list goes on. Each boy has his own rake, hoe, trowel, and seed box. The gist of all of this is that I'm passing on to them what turns my crank in gardening; they catch the fire of my enthusiasm; they become knowledgeable about plants from the beginning of the process. They don't even know that they are learning life skills which spill over into other endeavors.
Another thing I do is to tell them that today we are going exploring in the yard or neighborhood. The boys know that Papa will make up an adventure that could include a bug or butterfly hunt, a rock hunt, feather hunt, animal tracking, bird watching, a wagon train adventure, and perhaps just a day tromping through the woods.
Thanks for bringing up the topic. I'm making my plans for tomorrow's adventures and gardening ideas. One grandson will come before lunch and his brother joins us when he gets out of school. That gives me time with the younger boy to catch him up to his brother's speed and then while that one is napping, I have time with the older.
Make a great day with the kids!!
Teach them patience for when they have their own kids. That's one of my HUGE faults, which I'm working on. I guess I learned the impatience from MY father and started passing it on to my kids.
Buy an older home with an overgrown yard. If you do the work yourself you will learn everything you listed and you will save a lot of money. Since it is your house, then you can take your time and get how-to manuals. Your kids will have a chance to learn with you. The trick will be getting them to leave their online games and actually help.
I have removed and replaced almost everything in my 1935 house, with the exception of wiring and plumbing. I'll change a washer in a sink or change out a light fixture, but I don't like things that spark or leak.
I don't remember my Dad teaching me anything but it seems I learned volumes. He, in my eyes, could do anything. Carpentry, woodcraft, mechanics, farming, public speaking, hunting, fishing, heavyequipment operation, boating,etc etc. I could go on and on. I asked him as a teen how the hell he could do so many things and he said "I didnt have a choice" I dont recall but on a few occassions him specifically teaching me things. I was his constant companion and helper. If he made a step I was right behind him. Probably making him miserable but he never complained and amazingly by the time I was grown I had many of the skills he posessed and gained proficiency as I grew older along with adding some skills and knowledge he did not have. I do not have children but I try to pass these skills on to my nephews when I can. I suggest you do manly things with your children and keep them off the video games and tv.
This is how my relationship with my dad is/has been. He rarely actually teaches me anything, and 90% of the time when he does take the time to point something specific out it's something I've already come to understand. What he does do is take care of the task and have me help and watch him. Even if he does the majority of the labor I still learn by observation. In this manner, I have gained a lot of mechanical skill without having to be actually taught.
http://www.vintageprojects.com/ Some projects to include the kids in.