So, there are several parts to this discussion. I aim to enquire and get feedback from all ages, men and women. Hopefully this will give me a better understanding of where I'm at with my life. Please bear in mind that I have recently turned 17, and live in Scotland, so laws are a bit different here.


Part One: Sexual Partners

Yeah, I know, risky, but anyway I am 17 and so far have been with two women sexually. The last time was during the summer, so yeah it's been a while hahaha, but I'm fine with that and I think this is normal for a 17 year old?

Also, how many partners do you think you should have by the time you get married, say maybe 30 or whatever?


Part Two: Children

Well, I know I'm a long way off from children yet, but it is a subject which has always interested me. In the ideal world, I would have rather a lot of children, say maybe five or six, and I'd have time and money to care for them all. But obviously there are a lot of factors to consider here.

Clearly, the first is my wife. I can't expect her to have countless children, unless of course she feels the same way. Next is the money. Roughly how much money per month would you say it costs for one child? I know it's a lot, but I'm not exactly sure how much.


Part Three: Pets

This is a more light- hearted enquiry. I absolutely love animals, cats and dogs in particular. I currently have three cats (one passed away), and one dog. Whereas when everyone else deserts you, and you are all alone, a dog will be there for you, and love you unconditionally, whereas cats don't give a toss either way (but I love them all the same). So when I finally get my own place, I'm going to get a lot of cats and dogs, but how many is too many?

Again money and time obviously are important factors here.





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In terms of pets, one or two is probably the best. Three is okay, but pushing it. Any more than that and you just look crazy. Remember that pets take a lot of time and money to take care of properly.
1) don't have sex with a woman you are not willing and prepared to marry (this kinda relates to question number 2 below). this was my rule when i was younger. having said that, for me the number was greater than one. men have emotional needs as well as physical needs. you don't get both met between a woman's legs unless that woman is in your head and your heart. make the emotional connection FIRST and the physical connection will be much more meaningful and powerful.

2) i have 2 boys. for me, that is enough. my high school sweetheart wanted at least 6 and to have them all before she was 23. That way she would still be in her 30's when the youngest was a teenager. Sound thinking, but not for a teenage male. we practiced a lot but never got married and broke up in college. How many kids? I give you the Duggar family who is at 19 and counting. giving credit where credit is due, they are debt free and their family seems to be quite stable and happy. that said, don't have more than you can love each the same and provide for.

3) My wife and I own a kennel. I have 15 dogs that weigh over 100 lbs. two live in the house (one sleeps on my bed). add to that 2 cats, 3 horses, and 15 chickens and the result is no time to do anything else. Forget vacations, impromptu road trips, spontaneous weekend get-a-ways, or anything else that will keep you away over night. DON"T DO PETS!!! better not to get started at all.
Your #1 just reminded me of something I was thinking about earlier today. For all you guys having sex with your wife or girlfriend, make sure she's taking a folic acid vitamin. Folic acid is in every multivitamin and significantly reduces the chances that a fetus will have a neural tube defect (ie spina bifida). I was thinking today how often women who present to their doctor will tell him that they started taking it as soon as they found out they were pregnant.

This is the problem. A girl, not expecting to get pregnant (and therefore testing herself with pregnancy tests) will not know she's pregnant until she misses her next period (up to ~4 weeks). The problem here is that the neural tube is already formed at this point in the fetus' development. So she's too late!

I know you might say "we aren't trying to get pregnant" or "she's on the pill" but sh*t happens. And as hard as it is to handle an unexpected baby, its harder if that baby has a severe disability.
Thanks guys this is some good advice and insight here!
1. The same amount as your partner, I find. Otherwise one of you will get jealous. I know it sounds silly, but it seems to be true.
2. As many as you can support.
3. Zero. I hate animals.
The same amount as your partner, I find. Otherwise one of you will get jealous. I know it sounds silly, but it seems to be true.

I AGREE woman/men do have a jealousy nerve and its right between the legs.
1. You're fine. There's no set number, just be careful not to a) have children, or b) get a viral STD.
2. Kids are very expensive. Wait until you have proper finances in order before popping them out.
3. Animals are very expensive. Wait until you have proper finances in order before filling your home.
Sexual Partners: between 2 and 8. Anything more makes you a slut. But I'm only counting full on penis to vagina.

Kids: 2 kids should be the limit. At that point you aren't contributing overpopulation, you are just maintaining the status quo. If you want more adopt.

Pets: some variation of three be it 2 dogs and a cat, 2 cats and a dog; but never 3 of one type.
I gone past a slut I must be at whoredom level. Prior to my wife that is....
1) Your experience will be different then my experience. I could give you a number, but what is a number other than an attempt at quantifying a non-quantifiable set of experiences? 0 is a good a number as 50,000. Do note that every time you are with someone you are also having sex with every person they have had sex with in the past. So perhaps you could add their numbers to yours?

2) Money for children depend on if one person is staying home to raise them or not. Really what you need to be is ready to have a child. You and your wife will be giving up a lot to have the little one. You will no longer have much if any time for yourself and you will be tied to the home. For me it has been great to be a father. I went into it like I did with my marriage, expecting lots of change, hard work, deep commitment with an open loving willing heart.

3) Two animals to spend the day with each other. I used to be a dog person but I have found that good house-only cats are perhaps better.
1) Although banging lots of chicks is undoubtedly fun, the process of racking up sexual relationships would probably interfere with your ability to learn the relationship skills that are necessary to sustaining a stable marriage. As far as acquiring basic sexual skills and confidence, you really only need 1 to a handful of partners to do that... In any case, your future wife will tell you what she wants in bed or you will figure it out together.

2) Somebody mentioned that having more than 2 kids contributes to over-population and I would like to comment on that even though it will be slightly tangential to your question...

The world is already over-populated; that is to say, our habitat (Earth) cannot support the population's current rate of resource usage. Limiting the number of kids you have to 2 just maintains the current level of overpopulation... It doesn't "fix" the problem.

This phenomenon has more to do with how much crap we use up per person rather than how many exact people there are... If you care about fixing the problem, then start reducing the amount of unnecessary resources you use up. Learn to take joy in the simple things, such as long walks on the beach and practicing all those sex skills you learned. Learn to enjoy a more plant-based diet and practice portion-control... It's good for the environment and your long-term sex appeal.

If you can master minimalism and you feel that you can pass that philosophy on to your kids, then you shouldn't feel guilty about having as many kids as you like. You will also be able to afford a larger family if you take this approach. And if you and your future spouse both love kids, remember that adoption is a great option for many families.

3) Pets are fun... Just remember that women don't like to feel they are competing for attention with anything... So don't go overboard.


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