So my wife and I have been married for 10 years. We're both in our mid 30's and she can hear the biological clock ticking. We both feel like we want to have kids and we shouldn't wait much longer. But we both have days where we go back and forth and think about maybe not having them at all.
Reading various threads here men seem pretty tepid about the whole having kids business. Some men are sure they don't want them at all. And some say who have them say they're really difficult, and then qualify it with "but they're worth it."
But don't you kind of have to say that? I mean no one wants to say they regret their kids in polite conversation.
So let's have a non-polite conversation. I'm not interested in what you tell your wife or even your friends. How do you honestly feel about having kids? Does the good outweigh the bad or vice versa?
On the one hand, creating offspring is pretty much the most manly thing you can do. So much of our biology, our anatomy, our hormones is set up so we will perpetuate our line. On the other hand, whenever I see a new dad, sweatpants and t-shirt, tired eyes, with a baby strapped to his front, I tip my hat to him, but also feel a little sad......
Also, while lots of people say having kids is really hard, people also told me that marriage, even sans kids, was hard, and I haven't found that to be the case at all. So individual mileage with these things obviously varies. What's been your experience?