I'l give you guys a bit of a back story, right now i'm at a point in my life where the only friends I have take advantage of me and even thought I help them every day they never do anything in return. I am sick of this situation, and I just want to leave this group of friends and never see them again. The problem is I have literally no other friends and where I live there isn't that many places to make new friends. What do you guys think I should do? Thanks in advance.

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I'd very much like a response to this myself. I also live in an area where most young men and women move away almost immediately after high school if they can which makes dating and group bonding tricky. The friends I do have have gotten used to the "old" me which is a person I no longer wish to be and are not very supportive of the positive changes I'd like to implement into my life. If there is any sound advice, I'd love it as well.

I'm 17 but live in the UK where you leave high school at the age of 16 so I can't make friends there. 

Thanks for the support.

'great white north', would that be Scotland?  Not good for the Scots.

The Scottish are great. And they're white. I'm rather fond of them.

I can propose a few ideas:

* Look into whether friendship is about getting people to return favors.  I don't think it is.

* ...but it still may be that your friends are now people you don't like and don't find to be good influences.

* Look into venues you don't look into, and groups you haven't considered.  Volunteer at the old folk's home; you'll just be giving to them, but that's not because they're bad people.

* Do something in company.  Volunteer elsewhere:  it's easier to be friends about something than to just be friends.  Go into a church.  Join a fraternal order:  they'll likely be way older, but they're still men and you're one too.  Find something you enjoy (sport, games) or find worth doing (above) or find will be helpful to you (more schooling; a self-help organization) and do it in company.

Good luck with it!

Thanks, those are good ideas, just what I was looking for. In regards with your first point I understand what you mean, problem is that when I was in a bad situation and asked my friends for help they simply refused, I feel that maybe they should had returned the favor.

Are there other interest groups you could join?  In the US there are hiking, biking, running, work-out, church, religious, art, business, cooking, as well as other types of groups one can join and then there are the fraternal groups such as Masons.  Maybe one of these groups would broaden your horizons as far as people you meet.

You just leave. If, after honest evaluation, you've determined your current situation is bad for your soul, you do something else. Also, learn the difference between friends and acquaintances.

Get a job

Volunteer

Join a club

Register for social or athletic activities

Join a fraternal organization

Join a team

Got a favourite sports team? Join a supporters club.

These are all ways to meet people who aren't part of your current group of friends.

You said you where out of High School.

When and where do you meet up with them.  If it is after hours, plan other things to do.  Change the places you hang out.  When they ask to meet up have other plans and don't tell them what.

Also HAVE OTHER PLANS.

Switching groups is not hard but you need to change the patterns that will run you into the old group.  With in a few months you will have transitioned.  If you can find a hobby group that would be good for finding new people.

 

i have to say -- There are no victims only volunteers - Just for in the future, you shouldn't give money or do favors under the assumption that you will be paid back in kind. It just a resentment waiting to happen. If you can't do it without never expecting anything back don't. 

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