Afternoon, men,

I'm working on a blog that provides help for husbands and fathers who take on these frightening responsibilities before age 25. I want to offer insights and tips, not exactly Art of Manliness stuff, but definitely linked.

Anyway, I'd love to have some guest posts from other men who married early. Check out the site at skippingbachelorhood.wordpress.com if you're interested.

I'd especially like to hear from guys who could offer their stories or practical advice. Please let me know if you'd be interested. Thanks!

Views: 291

Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Not sure I have that much advice, but I am 23 and married (got married a little after my 22nd birthday). I'll think about it and post sometime later (when I'm not at work).

-Joseph 

I appreciate it, Joseph. Just give me a shout if you're interested. Even hearing stories of other guys who got married early is good for people to hear; it validates the whole system for a lot of people.

I was married at 23, and I'm still married now, at 49 (to the same woman, by the way).  I'd love to help.

That's awesome, Todd, thanks! I'll message you with more details.

Not sure how age makes the difference.

Good point. The basic idea is that culture is set up for men who marry/begin fatherhood later, so younger husbands and fathers like me feel a lot of pressure to keep up with wealthier, more experienced men when it comes to taking care of our families. We don't have the monetary resources that people who marry later tend to, and a lot of people in mainstream culture treat people who marry early with a condescending manner.

There are organizations set up in a few states as well as in Britain to help young men figure out all this stuff that's usually reserved for five to ten years later, but there's not a whole lot of basic information that's easy for anyone to access. That's the idea. Does that make sense?

I think there is a 'window', if you will. I married fairly late (first time) and included were two children. So I was an older bachelor who ended up with an immediate family and all the joys and troubles that go along with a family.
I'm also not sure its just about the money aspects but about the maturity to handle what will occur between you, your spouse, and your child. There are a lot of 'older' (late 20s to 30s) men who don't have a lot of monetary resources at their disposal either.

Some good thoughts, for sure. The idea of the blog is to help guys develop that maturity--not just get cash! I was 21 when I got married, and I thought I was fairly mature, but I learned about a day into the honeymoon how far off I was. So instead of telling guys they're too young and dooming their marriage with statistics, it seems better to provide resources to help out.

OK:  lack of respect, lack of maturity, and to a lesser degree, lack of money.  Thank you:  I get it now.

You might get posts that are helpful on the first two of these from men who did not marry young as well.

I hadn't thought of that. That's a great angle, and I'll definitely be looking out for men who might be interested. Thanks for your help, Will!

Stellar. I'll send you a message with specs. Thanks, man.

I apologize for being late (software update releases are hell) but I would definitely be interested in providing any help I could to the blog. Something that hasn't been explicitly mentioned is that I (and i'm sure many other younger married people) sometimes feel like I don't have friends that understand my different perspective on things. Just a thought.

-Joseph

RSS

Latest Activity

Shane replied to Rob's discussion Paying for your own harassment and ritual humiliation
"Doesn't matter if it's a trend or not. Bullshit is bullshit. That any one person thought this was ok is a problem. That an administration thought it was ok is a definite problem. This is a problem which needs kicked in the nuts before it…"
38 minutes ago
Steve Dallas replied to Rob's discussion Paying for your own harassment and ritual humiliation
"Actually winning the MegaMillions would probably change my personal view on statistics, but it wouldn't change the reality of those statistics. While yes, sometimes we have to look at things from the other side just as much as we have to take…"
52 minutes ago
Jack Bauer replied to Rob's discussion Paying for your own harassment and ritual humiliation
"True.  Majority with an inferiority complex. JB "
58 minutes ago
Shane replied to Rob's discussion Paying for your own harassment and ritual humiliation
"Women aren't minorities."
1 hour ago
Josh100LuBu commented on Vendetta5885's photo
Thumbnail

Electro Shock Therapy

"Wow, great photo. "
1 hour ago
Shane commented on Vendetta5885's photo
Thumbnail

Electro Shock Therapy

"Hmmmm. Seems like the exact opposite of what you'd want to do."
3 hours ago
Jack Bauer replied to Rob's discussion Paying for your own harassment and ritual humiliation
"Second ... isn't most anti-discrimination policy built 'for the 1 out of 100,000' (give or take)?  It is explicitly for the protection of minorities -- the fewer the better.  I have a hard time thinking special…"
3 hours ago
Jack Bauer replied to Rob's discussion Paying for your own harassment and ritual humiliation
"The 'policy' of not intentionally punishing the innocent is hardly "built for the 1 out of 100,000".  It's a pretty fundamental policy of American jurisprudence.  It's the basis of warrant law, search and…"
3 hours ago

© 2015   Created by Brett McKay.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service