Hi there! I am a 46 year old man from Norway who has been struck by the realization that there are more boys than men out there, even at my age! I was also struck by the realization that my own status in that regard was not all that favourable. So I decided to change that.
What does "being a man" to mean me?
First of all, it is a matter of responsibility. Boys indulge and blame. Men take responsibility and act. If your wife complains that you do too little around the house, ask yourself what your responsibilities are, and whether you follow them up.
Second, it is a matter of a certain cleanliness of body and spirit. A man has rid himself of "childhood trauma" and can appreciate his parents, whatever shortcomings they might have had, and will always look up to his father. He carries this out into the world, looking more to work on the man within than to pick quarrels with those outside.
Third, a man values function and form. He is not dazzled by the lights like a boy, but asks what the function is, and whether it has a good form. A man thus dresses sensibly, and has his nice clothes, but does not hanker for jewels and glitter.
Fourth and last for now, a man is a self-starter, and knows when to speak and when not to.