My Dad is at the very end of his rope. We have about a week before we lose him.
My mom told me he was going on about a ramp, a ramp going up. he went on and on about everything being ready and we are going to leave. My mom asked why and some other stuff he kept saying "everythings done im riding the ramp up". I found this oddly symbolic at least. I am sure quiet a few people will think either it's a sick man seeing what he wants or someone (possibly me) is making it up. Think whatever the hell you want I just thought it was a strange thing to happen and it kind of feels like a sighn or whatever.
Some don't get any time or notice before a loved one dies. Give him a hug, tell him you love him, say good bye and be thankful for the time that you have left.
I lost my little brother back in '91 from AIDS related illness. It was hard seeing him sick and harder because he couldn't communicate, although he could hear he couldn't talk or see. The only thing I could do is tell him I loved him and would miss him. Even though it saddened me greatly I know it was good for him, and for me to tell him goodby, for now. The one thing I'm thankful for is that it was not a long illness nor was he in any pain and that I had a chance to say goodbye. In '94 I lost my mother. She was in her bedroom and had a heart attack, the ME said she was gone before she hit the floor. My greatest hope is that she didn't feel fear and was not in any great pain. My greatest sorrow is that we had no chance to say goodbye.
First off, sorry about your father. Loosing someone is never easy.
The mind is a strange and wonderful device, with levels we are only beginning to understand. People at "death's door" have seen all sorts of things - the light at the end of the tunnel, angels, devils, previously departed loved ones.
As hard as it is to see your father in this condition, I would say to take it as a good sign that his own mind (subconscious, soul, whatever) is prepared and knows that he is taking the ramp up. I would think that's an indication that he has no deep regrets.
Doesn't matter what others believe. He believes he's going up and when his time comes, he will be at peace.
My grandmother was in the hospital for a few weeks before she died. I had planned on going to visit her in the hospital when I was in town. Everyone in my family said I shouldn't go because she looked bad and couldn't talk or respond. My wife and I went to visit her in the hospital and talked to her and said goodbye even though she wasn't able to respond to us in any way. She died less than 48 hours later. I was mad at my family who didn't find it necessary to visit her and talk to her. If someone has just a short time left I would say to keep talking to them and let them know you are there for them.
I grew up living with my grandparents until I was about ten. I visited them just about every weekend afterwards. I was very close to them and it was so very hard dealing with losing them. I was a senior in high school when my grandfather passed away. I visited him everyday that I could. The last time I saw him was a few days before he passed. He didn't have a clue who I was. He kept telling me to give Matt the key to the door so I could get in to see him. He wanted to see me so badly, but he didn't even realize I was right there talking to him. I left and broke down. It was incredibly hard, but I knew then that it was time. I felt a little more at peace because I knew he was getting ready to go.
My point is that while it's difficult seeing a loved one in that condition, it can be a bit easier knowing it's coming; you're a bit more prepared. That's how it was for me anyway.
My Dad passed away earlier today....
Sorry to hear that man.
I wish there was more that I could say. So sorry for this very difficult time. Praying for you and your family.
My condolences, Max. You and your family are in our thoughts.
Blessings on you all.
Sorry to hear about this. I'm praying for peace for you and your family.