To My Dad on His Day
To my dad on his day,
Of whom I am a living will:
May your happiness fulfill
Your goodness, as is just and right.
Deeds are seeds upon the night
As wind and wonder have their way,
Delivering the destined light.
For guys my age this day is a bittersweet time, as both my dad and father in law have transitioned on.
For good or bad they both provided the strongest male influence I've ever had, and having them gone for good leaves a hole that cannot be filled.
As a father, though, I am very much harvesting the bounty I've sown with my two wonderful ladies who made me breakfast with presents and hugs. Feeling very loved and happy today.
Happy Fathers Day.
Not having a good father's day. Long story short my wife lead me to believe that she had already bought all the gifts for father's day when I told her not to buy me anything but use the money she would spend on me to get clothes and stuff for my step kids' sister who's house had burned down. She told me after I had told her that that it was too late and my gifts were already bought (she said it was done), which lead me to believe that she'd bought all she was going to purchase. She also told me that she was intending to purchase some items for Brianca (the kids' sister) when she got up to Buffalo. Today she gave me my gift which consisted of two pull-over shirts and that's it. Having spent over $400 on her for mother's day I was expecting considerably more than just two shirts when she had lead me to believe she had finished shopping for me. Today she tells me that I was the one who had volunteered to not get anything in order to get stuff for Brianca. Am I wrong about this? If she told me that she was done shopping and all I get is two shirts then what does that say? Even my stepdaughter told me 'Thanks anyway', which, to me, means she also understood my wife to be saying the shopping was finished. I'm quite pissed off about this situation along with other things that have been going on, for one the trip my wife is taking to Buffalo, without me.
Sorry to unload but I can't talk to my father anymore.
Precisely and succinctly put.
It's not exactly about keeping score it's more about feeling that she thinks I am worth giving a decent gift to (I know my participle is dangling). When it is time for me to give a gift to her for a special occassion I get her something nice. Examples included diamond earings, the bike, a cricket machine for her crafts, stuff like that that I know she would like and give the intended impression that she means a lot to me and she's worth it. I don't always ask for parity gift wise but every once in a while, especially if she asks me what I want, I would like to get something from her that portrays the same thing on her part. I know all us men feel that way sometimes.
Sorry you're having a tough day. I guess one consolation is that you've got a nice step daughter (any kids of your own?) If I want something I usually just buy it myself. Most of the stuff people give me just sits in a closet and collects dust. Please enjoy the day with your step daughter (and kids?) And happy Fathers Day.
Sorry to hear that.
My wife rarely do gifts for those days, as she is not my mother nor I her father; but no matter, Shane is right.
Jango was a cool dad, but I wouldn't tell my dad we're like Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader... unless he's hacked off your hand...
There are days when I think maybe they should just cancel the day and stop pretending society cares about dads for even one day of the year.