I've known this girl for a while, and have always kind of been attracted to her. Only until recently did I find myself wanting to ask her and get to know her more. There is one problem with her that I can't seem to get passed, that she like to hang out with lots of guys. I mean lots. One of her best friends is someone she used to date almost a year ago, and all the conversations I've seen her have have been with other guys. One of my primary concerns here is that so many guys really have secret crushes on her, but no one has the balls to ask her out, and she maybe very naive in thinking all of them just want to be friends.
Am I over analyzing this? Should I just not worry about this until after we've been dating for awhile?
PS. I've already taken her out once and thing seemed to go reasonably well.
TLDR; Girl hangs out with lots of guys, is this an issue?
Maybe he meant, 'be cautious and move forward'.
She is having sex with every single on of them (sometimes simultaneously) except for you, and she will not stop if you start dating her. I recommend 20 minutes of continually slapping yourself in the face every night until it all becomes clear.
So you've moved out of your comfort zone, taken this girl out on a date, both enjoyed yourselves, and wish for this relationship to evolve.
And your biggest concern is the makeup of her friends.
Do you not see a problem, here?
Define "hang out". Are we talking chicken wings in a sports bar, or gangbang in her living room?
None of the guys "just want to be friends". That's not how guys work.
Its not really your business until you've been dating exclusively for a while. You've been on one date. She'll bug-out of you start telling her who she's allowed to be friends with. Are you sure you're even dating her? Or did you go out once, and then blend back into her group of dude-friends?
A relationship with a guys'-girl can be a lot of fun, provided she's actually devoted to you. I'm not sure she is. I wouldn't want a girlfriend that was keeping ex-boyfriends around as a fallback, though.
It's fine she has male friends. I mean I have female friends, my girlfriend doesn't mind.
It's an issue if she keeps these friends secret from you (as in doesn't want you to know she's talking to them. Doesn't want you meeting them etc.) then you have to ask yourself 'WHY is she being secretive?'
The other potential issue is. Does she have ANY female friends? Simply because it's very odd if she has ONLY male friends. That says something about her as well.