I met her about a year ago, and we really hit it off. She had a boyfriend and was transferring schools, but we kept in touch all year. A while after she and her boyfriend broke up, she and I started talking more. Skyping and chatting online, and everything was great, we really clicked well. She told me she loves talking to me and wants to see me soon.
Anyway, she comes to visit to see a bunch of her old friends, and she tells me that she's seeing me for sure. She can't wait to see me, ect. We hang out all day together, and then before she leaves she and I kissed and agreed it was long overdue and we'd both been waiting to do that for a while.
A week after she left, we skyped and she was talking about me coming to visit with another one of her friends. I asked her if she was going to be my valentine, in a flirty sort of way, she said yeah, and then I called her on V-day. I thought that would be a nice thing to do. She didn't answer or get back to me. I give it about three weeks (this is a usual amount of time for us not to talk due to our own lives at school) and haven't heard from her, so I text her saying "we haven't chatted in a while, lets Skype!" She agrees, and makes plans for the weekend to talk to me. The weekend comes, and she's no where to be found again.
I'm very confused. I don't know if I overwhelmed her, or what happened. She seemed to be very into me, very excited to see me, wanted to see me again, wanted to talk to me right after she left, and then she just vanished. I'm not sure what else to do. She and I have been friends for a while, and I really like her. I don't know if the context of our relationship changed, and then visiting seemed like a huge deal and it freaked her out or what. Any insight?
TL;DR: Kissed my friend, tried to keep in touch and she won't talk to me.
thanks for reading guys
When you're friends with someone, tossing in any intimate gesture can makes things awkward. I'm thinking perhaps she has regretted the kiss, because she doesn't want the friendship to change, but now that it has happened, there is no going back to the way it was before.
Or maybe she was just experimenting with her feelings. Sometimes women will literally go through phases of being romantically or sexually interested in someone.
All you can do is ask her.
She is keeping herself/heart safe by cutting it off now instead of getting emotionally invested over a long distance situation.
Let it go, move on, nothing deep or profound here.