For those married or in a relationship how long was it into the relationship when either of you first said you love the other? Also for those in a relationship how long before you both moved in together. This my first relationship so I don't want to go too fast. Just want to gt a feel for where others have been. 

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In my last relationship, which ended in March after about 2.5 years, it took us about 3 months to use the L-word.  Don't force it, you'll know when the time is appropriate.  If you have to ask yourself if it's time, the answer is probably not.  And remember love is a decision, not an emotion. 

 

 I'm an old fashioned and religious man, and I don't move-in until I'm married to them.  So my advice is worthless there.

Three months! Any others?

4-6 months for the Love you part, and close to a year to move in, its been 3 and a half years and things are still going great! Marriage isnt that far away.

my wife and i were seeing each other, not exclusively, for 4-5 months, and we were just sitting on my front porch one day, laughing about something, and she was all funny and adorable and beautiful, and it just came out.  i didn't think about saying it, didn't choose to say it.  it was just my reaction to who she was.

well, we were both at a place where we weren't looking for anything serious, and i can still remember the look in her eyes, like a deer in headlights!  i thought i'd messed everything up, so i told her i didn't think about saying that, and she didn't need to reciprocate, but i didn't--couldn't honestly--take it back.

we moved in together after being exclusive for about 6 months, and the start of that was about a year after we met.  

best of luck with everything!  thanks for letting me recount my experience.

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