As for me, as a father, I have two sons: 23 and 19 years old. They were raised by their mother and step-dad. I only had them for a few years when they were very young. We try to stay in touch, but now that they are young adults, we've drifted even further apart. If I receive a card or a call, from either, I will consider it a true blessing. (But, I won't result to shaming them into it.) About the time I lost my two boys; I met a wonderful woman, my present wife. At the time, she was trying to raise her three young kids, by herself... and I just naturally fell into the roll of step-dad to them. They are all in their twenties now, and I see them frequently... even though they are in three different colleges, in three different cities.