Art of Manliness

Failure To Lose Your Virginity

I'm sure most of us here have seen the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin. If you haven't, watch it. Its hilarious. I don't think I really need to explain the premise, but this does tie in with my question.

If a man is still a virgin and it is not by choice; at what age should he say to himself "Okay, I have a problem connecting with women (or men) romantically and something needs to change."

I can understand if you have personal or religious views that encourage you to keep yourself pure or whatever. I'm asking for the people who have no major hangups about two people having sex. People who view sex as a part of a romantic relationship or even just a fun way to spend a night.

Lets even take this question a step further back. Lets say that a man is now XX age and has never even kissed a girl (or guy). This is a big problem in his life that needs to change. How old is too old to have never kissed someone romantically and it is not by choice.

For the record, I consider myself as sort of a late bloomer, but not as bad as others. I first started dating when I was 17 and lost my virginity around 21 or 22.

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Permalink Reply by JonEdanger on January 3, 2013 at 2:11pm

You're not paying them to have sex with you. You're paying them to leave afterward.

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Permalink Reply by Jack Bauer on January 3, 2013 at 2:23pm

The going rate is cheaper if you let her stay around. Unless you decide to legally remove her later on ... then there's a cumulative back-interest charge of roughly half your stuff.

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Permalink Reply by LShieldes on January 3, 2013 at 9:00am

Sex isn't bungee jumping

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Permalink Reply by Ryan Yeager on January 3, 2013 at 9:03am

but wouldn't that make it so much more interesting?

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Permalink Reply by LShieldes on January 3, 2013 at 9:13am

Part of me says, hells to the yes, but another part says hells to the no. For some reason, freefall hurts my balls, I don't want to equate sore balls with the awesomeness that is sex. Sore balls usually equates back to when I was a virgin and did the dry hump and left with dry pants.

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Permalink Reply by Dish on January 3, 2013 at 5:08pm

wait...its not? well that explains a whole helluva lot

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Permalink Reply by Rebekah on January 3, 2013 at 1:34pm

New year, old threads

If someone, man or woman, reaches a point in his life when his peers are dating and/or married, and he's never dated, and he doesn't like that, he should assess how to fix that. He should consider his geography, circle of friends, and habits regarding his free time. A man in the Dakotas with just a few friends who spends his free time at home reading isn't broken, but he's unlikely to meet a girl. [Same for a woman in NYC.]

Others may have issues that require deeper introspection and/or professional help. In general, IMO, not dating at all is less of a problem than dating a string of very wrong people.

Sexual dysfunction is another matter. If a person doesn't have a problem beginning a romance, but does have a problem consummating it, there is likely a physical and/or mental problem. That should be addressed with a healthcare professional immediately.