When I was a kid/ teen, choosing some more or less good look has never been a problem (well, my parents were of some help too), but now that I'm in my mid-20's, I'm having a difficulty coming up with a way to dress well.

Just so you could get a picture about me, I'm into rock music (so hoodies, sports-team jackets, baggy pants, and all that jock stuff is not something I wear, ever). When I was 15-18, dressing in some torn jeans, a band t-shirt, maybe a denim vest, and combat boots was the go-to look for me. It didn't make me very attractive to most people, but the girls in the scene liked it, and I didn't need anything more. But as you grow up, you understand that the outrageous look isn't something you want (at least, if you're not a rock-star or something) - you're supposed to be an adult, and dress like it. So I've toned down my outfit: t-shirts, shirts, plain jeans, simple jackets, sneakers and shoes. No graphics (except for my old band t-shirts), no silly designs, or anything. Of course, colors and patterns didn't always match (if at all). But now, I want to actually dress well, to boost my confidence, to have people respect me, women to like me, to deliver the message about who I am, what my values and interests are, and all that good stuff. I keep reading all these books and articles (even on AoM), keep watching all these videos, try to follow, but I still end up looking like a has-been.

Trying to follow, I learned to somewhat match colors (I still try to keep my distance from patterns though). I also stopped wearing t-shirts, opting instead for polos and shirts; made a shift towards chinos instead of jeans (they're also more flexible), pay attention to clothing fitness (wearing clothes that fit me), and try to keep my hair in order. But something still seems way off, and I don't know what it is. Asking people is of little help - those that know me don't know/ care much about fashion/ style, and I'm not a sociable enough person to just ask the cashier at the store of their opinion on my look (that's just an example, but you get what I'm saying, I think). It's kind of a funny thing too: people here are closed-minded about the rock look and see it as immature, but wearing a tracksuit or pajama pants joggers in the street every day, or dressing like a stereotypical slut (if you're a woman) is absolutely fine.

Suits are also out of the question - way I see it, one only needs to wear a suit either if they're working in some serious organization, or if there's some special occasion (silly, I know, but bear with me), because wearing a suit everywhere all the time is just too much trouble.

So, what should I do? I can upload a few pics of my current outfit(s), if that'd be of any help, but I'll do that if anyone actually requests it.

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"Moldova" hmmmm

I did notice Eastern Europeans tended to dress like Russian Mafia. But, that's neither here nor there. Since you're trying to upgrade your wardrobe, look outward for inspiration. Here in the states, I tell people to find a celebrity who's fashion (stylist's) sense they admire, and emulate that. Celebrities pay a lot of money to be on the forefront of fashion, choose one that's fitting to your personality.

But, European fashion follows similar, but different lines. Try looking to maybe Italian fashion.

Eh, no, it's actually the other way around - it's the Bratva that dress like most east Europeans, so as to blend into the crowd, obviously.
I'm not much of a 'celebrities' person. Most of the celebrities' styles that I do like though are either what I'm trying to move away from (bohemian, rock'n'roll) or all suits. I like the standard Nick Cave dark suit, but again, I couldn't wear it every day. Actors, I really can't tell anything about since they always change their outfits for every other movie, and I don't really like contemporary movies.

Just google'd "italian men's fashion", got a ton of pics of guys in suits, half-suits (suit pants/ chinos and dress shirt), hats, sunglasses, shoes/ loafers and no socks. Definitely not my thing. Perhaps I should try a more/ less specific search...Or maybe go with some light-bohemian/ light-rocker look, since it's obviously my thing...

Thanks for the advice.

The Italians I worked with were always sharply dressed even when casual. That's why I suggested it. I'm not a fashion kind of guy, so I can't really describe it, but I can tell the difference between European and American dress even when they're both wearing jeans and t shirts. Keep looking man. You'll find your style.

but I can tell the difference between European and American dress even when they're both wearing jeans and t shirts

Yeah, I noticed it too. I think it has something to do with clothing care and actual quality?

Tailoring and cloth choice.

Something fitted always looks better but the usual american mindset for many items not a few very good & fitted items.

 

I suggest you look around internet for pics of men dressing the way you want to look... and thereby identify what it is.

Google'd "men's style examples", didn't like the bigger part of the results, but will look more closely. I actually did this before, and even saved a bunch of pics, but once I tried some of the styles on, they didn't suit me, or didn't suit me very well.

Still, thanks for the advice.

This looks helpful.  images.google.com, looked for men's styles, and it gave a huge list of refinement keywords:

https://www.google.com/search?hl=en&site=imghp&tbm=isch&...'s+styles

As I was browsing the pictures, I noticed all the models had legs the size of my 7-year-old daughter.  Just sayin'.

agreed!

oh yeah, forgot to mention - I absolutely hate the hipster look!

hmmm, maybe a Bob Dylan inspired style?

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