I met a girl on Catholic Match, and we seem to have a lot in common and are getting to know each other more. I am starting to read Modules for Manhood and the author talks about the task of trying to not chase her to hard and that her DMR bubble will pop if I do. So I do like her and want to work towards becoming her boyfriend. Any way is there like a time of response from say when she texts me to when I am apparently suppose to respond so as not to look like I am pursuing her to hard. I am operating where I am giving myself an amount of time to get to know her before I were to ask if I could be her boyfriend, so I am hoping this would help not make me seem like I am pursuing her to hard. 

Thing is, it is not hard for me to commit to being in a relationship, but I feel like the person I am with has to be in to me just as much as I am in to them. I believe there has to be reciprocation. To an extend any way. 

Thanks,

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I have no idea what "DMR" means.

Women like being pursued ... by men they like.  There's no hard rule about timing of communication.  Don't get too buried in the details.  Stuff like that doesn't matter all that much.  Its the big picture that matters.  You don't want to come off as desperate, so don't smother her or follow-her around like a puppy or something.  Otherwise, just communicate naturally.  She's a girl, not a space alien.

Bottom line ... if she likes you, she'll like you showing interest.  If she doesn't, she won't.  Its really not much more complicated than that.


JB

WTF is DMR?

65 meanings?

Department of Motor Rehicles?

Didn't realize it was a Japanese acronym.

lololol Ownage Pranks does the best Oriental accent.

Got it. Still have no f*cking idea what the OP's DRM means.

Nice!

Aren't those the ones with the star on the muzzle?  Or am I confusing the old National Match Grade rifles with "DMR"?

diminishing marginal returns. 

JB I agree with you fully its how I was approaching it form the beginning because to me I feel if I am following some "trick" then I wouldn't really be authentic. 

but I am not following tricks I am preventing myself from following them. I personally don't want to to use a measurement system I only brought it up that way because that was what the section was titled in the book.

We have not been on a date yet. she is from Long Island and I am from north of Boston. we only started talking a week ago. 

Also again you think I am doing something I am not I have not reduced things to measurements considering as to how I have not waited a scripted period of time to respond back to her. I respond when I am able to so no I am not using marginal returns as anything. I sort of went the way I felt was right to go form the get go which was to not have a preset time of responding back.

While I am at it even if I did ASK how long to wait and I don't in action run by a set time to respond then no I am not playing a game.

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