I think this is an interesting and stimulating topic, relevant for the members of the AoM forum. It is about proper responses to annoying behavior and people, what is the "high-road" in dealing with them? I have noticed for example on this site, there are a few pricks on here. Guys who think they know everything, arrogant pisses, whiners and complainers, insecure losers, delusional fools, etc. I'm not homophobic, but I've also have noticed there are quite a few dandies on here too. I mean there is a guy on here who is talking about how he likes to be naked and what guys think about other naked guys. What is up with that?
Anyway, most of you guys are intelligent, good people it seems, with friendly dispositions. Guys like myself, perusing this site for insights, nuggets of useful information, writing practice, thought-provoking debate, and what-have-you. But there always seems to be in any internet forum some handful of people that are just irritating, some obnoxious elements present, real jackasses.
How do you guys deal with people you find personally offensive? What are your usual options? Is it best to ignore, mock, attack, retreat?
I'm curious to hear peoples' thoughts on this, as I have a rather irritating colleague at work that I am having difficulty handling. Is there an article on this already?
I like a little diversity it helps make things interesting, I agree with you that arrogant know it alls can be annoying and are generally found everywhere but seriously I think you should take a step back and evaluate what you said about gays, there is no such thing as the normal and people should try and accept the differences in society without being judgemental. You could learn a lot from people that are nothing like you.
I agree with you that arrogant know it alls can be annoying and are generally found everywhere
I knew it....
It really depends.
Some people are annoying and don't realise it. I'd just ignore those folk and move on. It is a waste of energy to mock others, especially when they have no intent of mocking you or anyone else. Best example is the person who thinks everyone should be naked. If he bugs you that much then move and do something else unless you want to have a civil discussion on why you disagree with his views.
Others can be dicks on purpose who seek to offend and provoke others for the mere sake of it. They're best to be either ignored and/or reported if it goes overboard. Personally I'd rather those types of people being reported and taken off because they can drag down the quality of the thread and the forum as a whole.
To be honest, this forum isn't bad at all compared to all the stupid forums I've joined.
Well... it is to be expected on a site aimed at personal development, I suppose. (I'm not saying everyone here is like that). I'm not exactly perfect myself.
EDIT: Oh boy.
You're the same guy who wanted to become a god?
With all due respect, you come off as insecure and very judgemental too.
He seems a little eccentric, but we could probably go fishing together.
The high road is over rated. Esp when the person is the author of a post asking this question and being a judgemental, arrogant prick in the way he addresses many members of the site in thinking that he is remotely better than the ones he is actively insulting himself. High road in a forum like this means you just don't post and feed them with stuff to reply to.
How do you guys deal with people you find personally offensive?
I typically quote one sentence from their ignorant-ass discussion. Then I post a couple of sentences with one or two clever insults. On occasion I'll post three sentences.
If it's a particularly obnoxious post I'll post a second paragraph but it almost always is a single sentence.
The web is a different world than real life. On here, there's not much you can do. You can contact a mod, but the troll will come back. I've seen someone trick a troll into revealing their IP address, but there are ways to circumvent that. If it's some punk kid, which it usually is, you can sometimes tell the parent, but if it's going on in the first place, it probably ain't gonna stop. The only way is to just suck it up or counter-troll. Neither are very effective long-term.
If it's irl, "speak softly and carry a big stick."
Ignore. Putting a person in his place may feel good at the time, but 1) it probably won't make the person stop being obnoxious, 2) it makes you seem petty and burdened with too much free time, and 3) if they're merely annoying, why worry so much about it? If this is the case in real life, doubly so on the Internet.
At least, that's my experience. YMMV.
Some people you simply can't ignore. Especially if a few of his wires are crossed, if you catch my drift.