Generally speaking, how do you guys deal with disappointment. All men deal with disappointment their whole lives, from mundane things such as football scores, to more serious things like losing your job, or dealing with family tragedies.

How do you deal with disappointment as it can be a really big burden in our day to day lives and stop us functioning mentally to our best degree. I find, just putting whatever has disappointed me out of my mind and trying to focus on other things and try and achieve success somewhere else. I also find trying to pick out positives from whatever it is, however hard something has hit you, I think picking out positives can do a lot in boosting your morale.

So please, drop a response.

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Typically I accept the fact that I'm disappointed and I'm not going to be functioning at 100% so I go back to basics. Define what I need to do (work, etc) and focus on getting that done to a good standard and then easing off on other things for a few days or weeks (it depends on the trauma) until I'm over it. I find more rest and less stress gets me back on track fastest. 

If I try and take on too much during these periods I invariably perform everything under par. So I find it best to proactively take a step back, prioritize, lighten my schedule and be kind to myself for a little while. 

Learn from it.  If you or your actions are the source then learn, evaluate your decisions and choices and try better to see them as they show themselves in the future. 

If it is from something completely external to you then there may be nothing to be done about it, just learn to let things go.  It would be nice to see a green sunset but I cannot make this happen so I do not worry about it.

Depending on the depth of the disappointment, I allow myself a day to a week of indulgent self-pity. Then I move on. This has come with the wisdom of age. In my youth I would slip into depression, especially after a job loss. I eventually learned that every loss was a chance to reinvent myself. The last time I was told I was being let go, I was positively ecstatic.

I think this is dead on.  Part wants to grieve.  Let it -- but don't let it take over.

First thing you have to come to grips with: There is no brass ring in life. None of us get everything we want, most of us never even come close. Even when we do, there's generally a cloud for every silver lining. Disappointment ranks up there with death and taxes on the inevitability scale.

For me, coming to grips with that fact took a good part of my late teens and twenties. Then I realized something real simple. If you can change the outcome, or fix the problem, do it. Don't feel sorry for yourself, don't dwell on should'ves or could'ves. If you can't change the outcome, and there's nothing you can do to solve the problem then. . .move on. It isn't a problem if you can't fix it. It's just life. Get busy, do something else, go after some other goal, and eventually, the sting will go away.

Get busy and move on

Depends on what I am disappointed about. 

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