So, there's this girl (shocker). We've known each other for goin' on four years and have talked off and on. She lives in my home state and so this past New Years we got together and celebrated her birthday with a couple of friends. We got along really well and the next time I was in town, we went out to see a movie. A few days later, we went to my a party at a friend's house. Once again, we got along well and right before she left, we kissed out in the parking lot. I went back to school a few days later and for the next few months, things were great. We'd stay up late talking about all manner of stuff and I thought things were going well. Then something changed. She doesn't talk to me much and when we hung out of the summer, she was a lot more distant than before. I've been racking my brain trying to figure this out, but haven't been able to come up with an answer. Any insight would be appreciated.

Thanks.

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She found someone else.  Sorry.  Some girls find it difficult to let the guy know when it's over, heck most guys are the same way.

Did you commit into a relationship with her, or did y'all simply "hang out"? Because if y'all just hung out then maybe she was looking for a commitment of some sorts but never got it, so then she moved on

She's not that into you.  It happens.  That's my guess.

No cause for confusion.  She just changed her mind.  Chicks are known to do that.  She's gone.  Put her out of your mind, and find someone else to put in her place.

Sorry, chief.


JB

Everyone else has it right.

You kissed, but then you moved out of the picture. Sure, you still talked, but the kiss was forgotten.

Also what usually happens is that while you are in a situation like the two of you were, a fantasy of the other person builds up. When you are going to be back together again, one of the parties realizes that there is no way possible to live up to the fantasy, so they distance themself

Sounds like the initial kiss was never followed up by anything else romantically themed...maybe she was expecting you to follow up with a nice date or something and got bored waiting for you to make another advance on her...she may have even felt that you weren't romantically interested in her (girls can lack confidence and self belief as well).

 

Time to move on.

I'm with Rick on this one. She found another guy. 

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