Men, I'm new to the forums (first post) but I've been a fan of this site for a while. I was hoping to get some input. Lately, I've been undergoing (thanks in part to this website) an internal metamorphosis as I recognize I have what I call "Baskins Syndrome". It's entirely made-up, but it's the term I use to describe the all-too-common phenomenon of guys my age (22 years, sometimes older) who are essentially boys walking around in a man's body. In fact, that's the inspiration for the name: "Baskin" was the last name of Tom Hanks' character in "Big" which, if you recall, was about a boy who wishes to become a man and ends up having the wish granted.

I was watching Skyfall the other night (I was raised on James Bond) and it hit me: James Bond is exactly the kind of man I want to be (albeit I'd rather stay non-fictional). He's completely satisfied with the career he's chosen even in the worst of times and he goes above and beyond. He takes care of himself physically (more or less) and cares somewhat about how he dresses. He knows how to deal gracefully with those who are antagonistic towards him, how to command respect, how to attract gorgeous women, and how to be completely independent. My question is this: If that is the kind of man I want to be, what is the best, most comprehensive book or material on making the transition from Baskins syndrome case to 007? Thanks.

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Fair point.

Really all of these archetypes are structures for us to drape our ambitions on as motivation to do better.  Be it Bond, or a poster or whatever forms a nudge to do better.

Being James Bond is a boy's dream, not a man's.

IMO, if Bond is your idol, you aren't ready to be a man. It's fiction. No one is completely satisfied with their career in the worst of times except one dimensional characters like him. He doesn't command respect, he visits violence upon anyone who gets in his way.

I hate to be the one to say this, but if you think mimicking a fictional govt. sponsored sociopath killer is the road to manhood, I feel sorry for you.

Mike - I honor your vulnerability in asking this question. I think the answers various men give here are a sign of how prevalent the 'boys in men's body' / Baskin syndrome is. Some men recognize it - others have no idea.

There is lots of reasoning why this is so - and it is an issue that needs to be dealt with, since it is tearing at the fabric of all societies - men all over the world are feeling the same.

Historically young boys were torn away from their mothers, taken through a ceremony of initiation and returned to the village as men. This has occurred in all cultures around the world - until the post modern/industrial era.

It takes men to initiate men and unfortunately we have lost a generation or two of men and now there are few initiated men to initiate the next generation.

Seriously take the steps to seek solution to your question - now!  Check out http://mankindproject.org/  or for a powerful initiation recognizing God's power in the process

The first thing you will learn if your search is honest is that the images Hollywood gives us are totally false. (although Bond and Bourne are my favorites)

There is so much more I could share with you about this - contact me if interested.

Here's to your journey - it is a noble quest

Alright iam going to be the dick who says it. You can try to be like Bond but you will not be him. The first reason is that he is a fictional idealised book/TV character. He never takes a shit, never says something stupid and never strikes out on a women. This is pretty much the equivalent to women pointing at a model in a magazin and saying "I want to be like her."

The second reason is that you dont get a unique charme just by trying to be a copy. Look at Connery, Craig or Brosnan they are all different, because they impersonate themselfes to some degree. Real confidence can only come when you are totally fine with yourself. You dont ask "what would Bond in this situation do?" You dont even ask what you would do, you just do it.

You aim should just be to totally fine about yourself while also aiming to improve in some fields. I cant tell you how to do it. In the end it is up to you. Its not about trying to be more confident. You just need to find out what you want to do and then start working to get it. Your experiences, your failures and successes along this road will transform you to the man you want to be.

Welcome to the forums, Mike, and glad to see another young man (just turned 22 myself) on the path of self-improvement.  Also, love the "syndrome" phrase.  I might just use it down the road to explain why I've taken such a different lifestyle from my peers.

I can see exactly the appeal of Mr. Bond and agree he's just so...damn...suave sometimes it makes me jealous.  But usually I tend to realize he's just too damn suave, and, as many others have posted here, that's because he's fiction and we, as humans, can never live up to the images Hollywood puts before us.

But what's great is you've realized there is an image of manliness you lack and want to pursue!  The big point I'll make is this: You can't find your manhood by copying that of a single man's.  The old adage "It takes a village to raise one child" comes to mind here, except along the lines that a boy needs multiple images of manhood to create his own.  

If you want your own brand of virility in life, you need to branch out and find additional role models to learn from.  Sure, Bond is a great-looking, sharp-talking guy, but he's never handled power like Theodore Roosevelt, enjoyed the wonder of nature like Henry Thoreau, journey out for the sake of discovery like Ernest Shackleton, loved unconditionally like Forrest Gump, or lived with women and children like a married man.  Every man who comes before us has good and bad traits we can learn from, and I challenge you not to be star-struck by the goods of a single role model to the exclusion of countless other, amazing men.

Do you have any other men who pop up as possible role-models besides Bond right now?

Well Spoken Matt - you speak well for a youngster (take it as a compliment)

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