I am a teenage girl and curious if guys and girls can be just friends? Or is it not right? I watched an interesting youtube vid that says no, but i would have said yes? What do y'all say?

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Well link the vid so we can have some context.

To answer your question, yes.  To answer further,  you probably shouldn't try it.

sorry don't know how to link stuff! the video is called why men and women cant be friends, and a gy goes to a college and interviews tons of students.

College students aren't good ones to interview on this topic.  Or any topic really.

Probably discussed a thousand times (I started one myself) and at one point I would have said no.  Now (25 for reference) I think it's entirely possible, as I have female friends that I'm able to maintain without romance getting in the way.  I guess you just need to not be a complete meathead poonhound or a desperate romantic that gloms on to every woman that gives him the time of day. People are people; I'm attracted to some, repulsed by others, and the rest are potentially pleasant, platonic interactions.

Thanks Zach i have several guy friends and people are always saying i need to get together with to of them especially. I didnt know if we could be just friends without people saying stuff or if it wasnt possible

I should clarify that I'm speaking from the angle of someone that's had a bit more time in this world.  The crazy pubescent horny years are behind me.  But if you're 16, 17, 18 or so and you're hanging out with guys that are the same age, their minds might be less diverse in their interests and intentions.  Try not to feel too awkward or upset if one of them gets to the point where they tell you they really only wanted to spend time with you because they thought they had a shot at something more than friendship.  This is youth.

But if that frustrates you, fear not, as it passes in a few years.

I can't speak for all guys, but personally I haven't been good friends with a girl that I didn't like. For me, the types of things that I find attractive, e.g. intelligence, good tastes, a sense of humor, and self control, are things that I like in friends too. I wouldn't become close friends with a girl if I didn't want to become more than that. 

intersting! Thanks for replying!:)

From my experience you have to get past the friend stage into that sort of "Brother/Sister" stage, that eliminates any progression the other way. While you're still friends, if emotional boundaries are unclear, one person is likely to get feelings for the other of a romantic nature. 

But to answer your question simply, yes it is possible.

ok that would make sense! I have friends who call me lil sis and then others who  are just friends..this helps!;)

I think teenage guys and girls are a little different and I'd say it gets easier for men and women to be friends as they get older, but I think your question should really be 'can single guys and girls just be friends'?

 

In my experience, I'd say probably not.  I can only speak for myself but when I'm looking for friends I tend to turn to other guys, so if I'm getting friendly with a girl it's because I'm interested.  If that girl has a partner then I know she's off-limits and I can continue into a friendship with that girl, however if the girl is single I would be interested romantically so I've found that a friendship with that girl is unsustainable and ends up with one or both (usually me) getting hurt.

Yes they can but it is situational.  The situation usually arises from one or both being taken or in a professional relationship that keeps the question of getting romantically involved answered to NO.  Once that question is out of the way, sure you can.  Many people who would answer if guys and girls can be friends tend to think within their age group and social peers.  Can you be friends with your pastor, your uncle, etc?  In that context it is fairly easy to see that one can be friends across gender lines.

However it is easier as one gets older for various reasons. 

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