I should clarify the title of my post -- should I buy a birthday present for my best friend's fiance? They've been together for 5 years, and recently got engaged, and I'm best man at the wedding. I know the girl, we've hung out (all 3 together) a few times, and she and I get along. A few years back, I got her a Christmas present, but I haven't gotten her anything since (not for Christmas or bdays). And she's never given me anything on either dates. But I'm wondering now, after my friend's engagement, should I get her something? I'm just curious. I won't see her on her bday, but I will see my friend a few days before.
A further thought.
Do you and your friend exchange birthday and/or Christmas gifts?
If you don't, DO NOT start by giving something just to her.
Thanks for all your replies. It seems the consensus is "no, don't get her a present". I actually was leaning towards this even before I post, so you all offered some great reasons why. Chuck, thanks for your different perspective on things.
I guess my main reason for getting her a present would be to... just be nice. As in, she would think, "hey, my fiance's best friend is a nice guy". Not that I want to sleep with her anything or score "points" (!), but really it would be just to be nice.
I guess a simple "happy birthday" message will do.
gift card to a local restaurant she can share with your friend. Not too personal but gets the "Happy Birthday" message across.