Alright fellas,

I've been feeling burned out at work for a while now. I work night shift, haven't been sleeping well during the day, and have generally been in a rotten mood the whole time because of it. It all kind of came to a boiling point today when my wife and I got into an argument, and she flat out told me that she was tired of me and my attitude towards work and home.

I know I've got to do something, but what do I do? I'm kind of at a dead end here - I don't know where to go.

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From your pic, you're a CSR of some type. What exactly is it you do, what does she do, and do you guys have children?
Kind of. I'm a 911 dispatcher, she's the secretary for the sheriff's office, and no kids yet.

The stress level of my job doesn't help matters much, I know.
What's yours and her educational background, and such? Got aspirations to any particular level of greatness?
I'm a few hours away from an assiciates in fire science, she has a teaching degree. I've thought about finishing my degree out. Also have thought about going to paramedic school, and have gone as far as trying to get on a police department.

The biggest barrier to the schooling is not being able to pay for it right now. We bought a house and a car, and paramedic training is pretty much a full-time job.
My wife is a paramedic/fire fighter (associates in para-medicine and fire science) - it took her about 17 months of schooling, and she worked while she got it.

I've been in the same boat as you - close to a degree, hating my job, and getting aggravated about it. My suggestion to you is:

Finish your fire science degree. Just DO it. You'll feel better having finished something, and either get inspired to start applying to the fire departments, or you'll look better because you'll have *a* degree - which often is more important than what the degree is in. It shows commitment and dedication to getting things done.

You have a house and a car, you're married, and you both work. Hopefully, you didn't buy a mercedes when you can only afford a toyota (I've seen couples like this). Get your finances under control and make it happen.
Night shift does get better. I have been doing the 12 hr night shift thing for about 13 years now and it is tough. One of the biggest things to remember is to sleep when you need to. Don't try to keep up with day shift people and if you have a sleepy day oh well roll with it. Good luck and hang in there it does get better
I feel your pain Brody as I do 3 - 13hr shifts and end up filling in for people a lot (15 OT and 10 DT hours last two weeks), the last 22 months has really taken it toll on me physically and mentally. I, like others posting in this thread, try to sleep when my body tells me to but that is not always possible when the rest of the household still needs to function. I'm applying for other positions with in the company to get to a more normal shift. I for the most part have always been a happy go luck person, but have noticed a change in myself as my wife bringing it to my attention. I think some people are just cut of for that shift ... I am one that is not. Good Luck to you and I hope things change for you.
Isn't supplementing with melatonin suppossed to help night shifters? Maybe you could try that.
Dude, say a prayer of thanks that you don't have rotating shifts on top of the long hours. I worked a job where we averaged 10-11 hours per shift and rotated every two weeks.
One observation, I bet you don't get any weekend nights off, do you? It adds stress when one person is on 4pm to whenever, with single or split days off and the other person is M-F 8am to 5pm.
Rotating shifts here as well ... front end back end of the week I usually have been working weekends as well and so very true it does add to my stress. We rotate monthly, but my body never gets use to any of the funky shifts.
Self-hypnosis. I'm serious; it helps me relax. That, and a nap.
Thanks for all your advice guys. I bit the bullet today and took some pain pills with a sleep aid just to get some sleep. Slept better than I have in the past month or two, and even managed a 30 minute nap before I came to work tonight.

I am starting to work on a set of goals with my wife. We talked a little bit about it tonight and she was generally receptive to what I had to say, so I was happy with that. We'll see what happens.

Thanks again y'all.

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