A little background

Hey guys, I'm Pat, a 26-year old newly graduated nurse who is looking to go into pediatric intensive care nursing.  In light of a lot of what's being focused on in the news these days, I've taken particular concern, as a young male professional, that my ability to perform as a nurse will be threatened by stereotyping, fear, and hatred toward males.  When I discuss this with others, people tend to flow to one extreme or the other, saying either (1) that I have nothing to worry about, or (2) they state that they can understand how some may be reluctant to have a male nurse for their child.  Obviously I find great issue with the latter response.

If I were overly concerned for male stereotypes in general, I suppose I wouldn't have chosen nursing as a profession. It is the stereotype of being a potential rapist, child molester, etc. of which I take great issue. I hope that it never happens to me, because I can't imagine many things more hurtful than to be turned away from the lifesaving care of a child because their parents did not trust me on the account of my gender

What brings me here today

I'd like to share with everyone an incident that occurred at my university student center that left me feeling a little perplexed and somewhat self-conscious.  I suppose in doing so I'd like to highlight the incident and raise awareness amongst you, my peers, but also I look to you all for feedback, good or bad.

"Today, a woman pulled me aside in my student center. She picked me, a male, out of a few passers-by and asked me to sign a pledge that, among other things, stated that I understood that most sexual assaults against are committed by men and that I was pledging to never commit sexual acts against children. I signed, conceding this statistic as accurate, but I am hurt that my gender alone has been labeled as a "risk factor" to a point where men should publicly and explicitly pledge not to commit such a horrible, vile crime. Signing that paper, I felt ashamed to be a man. Not because I believe there is inherently something wrong with man, but because my own "enlightened" society believes that there is."

Tags: Men's, fear, nurse, nursing., rights, stereotypes, stigma

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 It's called Demographics. Profiling. 

 Get over it. 

It may be true that I am taking this too seriously and instilling myself with too much fear on the matter. Obviously I don't agree completely, but thank you for your feedback.

I disagree.  Most instances of child sex abuse are from family members.  Her demographics are off and he was singled out unfairly.  She should be told to fuck off.

Look, if he signed it, he should be ashamed of not being a man. Not to mention confirming the stereotype that nurses lack spine-

Most instances of child sex abuse are from family members.



Yup. Male family members. 

Denny, I have to tell you, I saw a movie once where a woman raped Clint Eastwood. Cameras filming her and everything...

This young lady phrased that as she did for a very good reason. She WANTS you to feel guilty just by your birth, she wants you to be demoralized. By doing so she thinks she'll feel better about herself. Don't let this bitch get to you. At all. Seriously. Delete this thread and never ever think of it again.

In court we like to say somebody is innocent until proven guilty. If YOU KNOW that you're a good guy who cares about people, make somebody prove that you're not before you even let them make you feel bad. Which they won't do. Somebody wants you to sign a pledge saying you're automatically a suspect and you won't do anything bad? DON'T FUCKING SIGN IT. Are you going to walk down the street signing pledges never to commit burglary, arson, or murder? No... it's assumed you're not going to do those things.

People are horrible at sensing bad motives and bad people. What they sense is hesitation, nervousness, or uncertain motives. As soon as you start thinking that everybody thinks you're suspicious, then they will think you're suspicious.

except for the part about deleting the thread, i completely agree with Jacob.

That young girl sounds much cleverer than the young man...

This is the deal, some people, even some males, believe the fact that you are equipped with a penis makes you a bad person inherently. This is the same mindset that presupposes that you can't have a man take care of a child. say hello to a woman without wanting to rape her or any other number of behaviors. As a man you have to know that you are inherently good.

Stein

Stein, let me do you a solid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Djj7jW6ny2M

One of my favorite songs ever!

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