Gentlemen, I’ve got a question for you. What do you do when you’ve been friend zoned? In class there’s a girl I see every day. I became interested in her romantically, but she doesn’t share the same sentiment. She says she hopes we can stay friends.
I have no idea how to act. It’s not like she’s a random I can cut out of my life, I see her every single day. Anyone been in a similar situation. What’s worked for you?
Part of me doesn’t want to be friends- I feel that’s validating her position, and I don’t feel cool about the fact that she turned me down. My thought process is “You don’t want all of me? Well you’re not going to have any of me!”. At the same time she’s a cool chick that I get along well with. We’ve only known each other for a few weeks, so it’s not a massive loss to my life if I cut her off.
Any thoughts? Many thanks
Ah this has happened to many men many a time. I suggest giving her a bit of space and try to fill your life with new things (hobbies work best) too distract yourself and above all, don't think. Meditate on absolutely nothing. Think about your life goals and what you want in terms of money, lifestyle, dreams etc and you start to realize one girl isn't really the end of the world.
Im still friends with both of my ex's because I deployed this strategy. It takes time but the friendship can be there even after this sort of thing
Best wishes Dave
I got lucky with my friend zone experience, She grew to like me, as I had liked her for a while, and as I am in the habit of taking many of my woman friends on dates, and I asked her if she would like to go on a date, she enthusiastically said yes, things went along from there. I suggest you either tell her how you feel, or ignore it until she falls for you; sure she may not feel the same way, but at least you put it out there, then you can move on and be friends, or a couple. whatever happens happens my friend, have fun dating amongst school.
Your feelings about her probably won't change; being her friend is just going to add extra torment, especially since she'll eventually start going out with someone else and you'll be stuck watching. Moving on would be your best move at this point. After you say goodbye she'll either come around or she won't. If the former is true, it's good for you; if not, you can get other friends and oh well.
I suppose you could keep being her friend if you want though. Perhaps after a while you'll even be able to convince her to give you your balls back.
Why do l get this picture of Ross from friends .
1) Don't play "my way or the highway," then you lose out on a person that you have identified as someone you want to be around.
2) Friend zone can be temporary, but not if you are going to focus on it. Just play it cool, hang out develop a strong friendship, and you'll probably find that one of you will move in the directions of the others feelings (i.e you'll find that she is a better friend, or she'll decide that you are a guy that is worth her time in a more romantic way)