I recently was shown this article. Honestly made me feel pretty sad.
Personally, I feel like I've been a very guarded person most of my life yet I've also really craved some kind of deep friendship (or buddyship) with another man. The fear and risk of sexualizing it has definitely kept me far away from something I really want.
Just wanted to share. What do you all think about the article?
Unless it's Thursday... then go ahead and do it anyway.
Jesus Shane, you are deep and wise. Glad you're here with us!
What is this about Thursday, I've heard that before.
Not being Sarcastic at all, have read many of your posts including Manlove Thursday - I just wanted you to know that I enjoy your posts and understand your logic...that might scare you but so be it.
I'm being serious, what is it about Thursday (I never heard of Manlove Thursday until the post above)? But I've heard this reference made before, someone told me a long time ago that in a dormitory (I won't say where) in the 1950s if you didn't want to have sex you kept your door locked on Thursday nights. What's the significance of Thursday, and why would I be scared by your comment?
+ post. Love 'The Onion'.
I agree that verbal affirmation is important and can be difficult. I've found the taboo of physical affection is even more difficult for me to overcome. Most likely it was a taboo that I taught myself. I don't ever recall anyone saying that I couldn't pat other guys on the back or give them hugs.
The risk of things turning sexual is because I'm pretty strongly emotionally attracted to men, and get some pretty big cravings for physical affection for them. Pretty much like the kind of affection that a son would give his father. I think some of it was due to the fact I don't remember receiving a lot of physical affection from my father growing up (he gave plenty of verbal affirmations). Sadly, I don't think that sort of thing is commonly accepted in the social circles I'm exposed to. I've had some people tell me that it was 'inappropriate' or the like.
Thank you both for responding! I love hearing different perspectives on this.
You probably hit a nail on my head. My mother tended to be very emotionally distant, compared to my father. Needless to say, relating with woman tends to be extremely distant.
The article needs Cliff notes.
It seems to blame the Gay rights movement for the death of friendship, and then even the problems young males are having today in general.