I recently was shown this article. Honestly made me feel pretty sad.
Personally, I feel like I've been a very guarded person most of my life yet I've also really craved some kind of deep friendship (or buddyship) with another man. The fear and risk of sexualizing it has definitely kept me far away from something I really want.
Just wanted to share. What do you all think about the article?
I'd say; if you want to be friends with a man, be friends with him. If you don't want to have sex with him, it's probably best you didn't.
Unless it's Thursday... then go ahead and do it anyway.
Ahhh, yes. Manlove Thursday.
^ Right, that's what I said.
+ post. Love 'The Onion'.
I agree that verbal affirmation is important and can be difficult. I've found the taboo of physical affection is even more difficult for me to overcome. Most likely it was a taboo that I taught myself. I don't ever recall anyone saying that I couldn't pat other guys on the back or give them hugs.
The risk of things turning sexual is because I'm pretty strongly emotionally attracted to men, and get some pretty big cravings for physical affection for them. Pretty much like the kind of affection that a son would give his father. I think some of it was due to the fact I don't remember receiving a lot of physical affection from my father growing up (he gave plenty of verbal affirmations). Sadly, I don't think that sort of thing is commonly accepted in the social circles I'm exposed to. I've had some people tell me that it was 'inappropriate' or the like.
Thank you both for responding! I love hearing different perspectives on this.
You probably hit a nail on my head. My mother tended to be very emotionally distant, compared to my father. Needless to say, relating with woman tends to be extremely distant.