ln my youth my grandfather who was in the marines during WW2 gifted me a ring that was a copy of the one he wore , but as teens l suspect that my brother stole it as l know l did not misplace it , now that he has been gone for a few years now l miss him and pretty much the only thing he ever gave me , so my question is is it disrespectful to him and other vets if l replace it myself being that l never server in the armed forces .

This is the type of ring that he gave me .

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I'm inclined to think that a replacement heirloom is a bit of a contradiction, and likely to be more trouble than it's worth.

l was wanting a replacement to put into a treasure box that my child could wonder at and ask questions about . As for the $160 dollars it would cost to replace , l have spent ten times that over the years on donations to various return servicemen charities .

Jon , l pretty much already have that sorted .

So you're asking if it's appropriate to replace a lost copy of a ring with another copy?

 

Yes thats what im asking .

As a kid l did wear it in my room and just before l lost it , l think l was about sixteen/seventeen l would wear it every now and then on a necklace .

If you don't actually wear it, I don't see any problem replacing the copy, keeping it in a treasure box for your son and using it as a piece to begin a discussion about the sacrifices that were made and to honor of your Grandfather by keeping his memory alive in another generation.

If you have the means and the good intentions do it

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agreed. ^ This.

I totally agree with you.

I'm going to take a different view, Brian.  I think this is a wonderful idea, but I would suggest you change the details so that it's not an identical copy, but more of an homage.

 

I've done something similar.  You know I love jewelry, so let me hit the jewelry box.

 

My parents (still alive) had a ring cast and made for me, when I was 8 years old.  Sterling silver, sand cast and flush set with a Jet stone...a black pseudo-gem related to petrified wood.  It was misplaced for a decade, and when I found it again, I decided to have it sized and wear it.  It was a gift from my parents, after all, and always looked quite nice!  And, the jeweler I used...he disintegrated the stone with heat.  Yes, I was quite sad.  And, more than a bit angry.  (No, I didn't want him touching it again, so he didn't get a chance to make things right.)

 

But, only a few weeks later, on pure chance at an antique shop, I happened upon an identical ring that was obviously made from the same wax pattern, with a beautiful piece of turquoise in a raised setting.  Quite different, and yet still the same.  It was different enough that it stayed "true" to the original, without copying it perfectly.

 

Here's a picture of them both.  The original is on the left, still missing its stone, and its replacement is on the right.

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