i don't exactly know for sure if this kind of doubt has been posted before, at least i couldn't find much information about it. If it did, just a link to the post shall suffice. I shall try to explain the situation in short.
I just usually find myself in a state where-in i want to travel. The where to and how aren't usually a problem, but the point is that when i suggest to a friend to go travellin, they usually let me down in the long run. So we never even come to the idea of booking a trip of some sort and that usually leads to canceling the trip. And it's not so that i'm scared to be alone or that i have low self-esteem. But i just can't seem to get myself to go on a trip alone. Unless ofcourse i have a purpose or a goal (like i have to be somewhere to do that specific task). So i want to go but somehow i can't find myself to get going alone.
Traveling is just one example of a lot of other things i would like to do. Think about going to the theatre, the movies, art-galleries, etc. Mostly i think it is because i somehow don't know how to talk to strangers. I'm not really comfortable starting a conversation with someone i do not know(unless i have a specific goal!).
I just don't quite know how to handle this problem. Or to get myself where i feel that i could be. And sometimes that makes myself feel like less of value, and therefor less the man i sense i should or could be.
i hope you guys get what i'm talking about, i'm open to any advice you guys got!
i quite ment that i'm just having trouble do something by myself. Once i took the first step i'm cool with it. Its just everytime i'm having a hard time taking the first step. And i mean yeah i kinda have to same thoughts. 'if i speak to someone, great, if not that's okay.' But still i can't seem to take the first step.
I think, part of becoming a man, is discovering who you are in foreign, or awkward situations. Perhaps, you should treat this trip like an adventure and wing it. Being alone is a great way to figure out exactly who you are and what you like. Don't be afraid to try new things. Pick a spot on the map you've never been and just drive. Stop at random places along the route and just explore. Just go man!
Have you considered study travel? Going to different great cities and study/research the architecture, history, art, etc., You don't need a companion, as you'll be doing research, study anyway. I am sure there are specialty travel agent/programs/groups, that you can get together with. I like journaling about my travels, and I'm always found in a library some where. I'm not antisocial, I just am very comfortable with myself. If someone is along for the ride, it makes it more fun! I'd be disappointed if someone couldn't go, but it would proclude me from enjoying the trip alone. Just a thought.
Edit, "It wouldn't proclude me from enjoying the trip alone." :) have fun with whatever decision you decide to make!
Yeah, i kinda get what you mean. And i haven't quite thought about study travel. It's interesting. I know myself quite well and i also feel comfortable with myself being alone. I don't know why this thing gets in the way. Mostly the first steps seems to look way to big. And i just can't help thinking just do it man.. :P
I don't have any advice, but this guy does.
I do things alone all the time and I enjoy it. Yeah I would rather be with friends but if they don't want to do what I want to do I still want to go enjoy myself. Just this weekend I went to a bar, by myself, to watch the UFC fight. My wife doesn't like that stuff, I asked a few good friends and they were busy, I posted on Facebook that I was going and asked if anyone wanted to come and no one responded. I didn't let it ruin my night though. I had a lot of fun.
There's no need to talk to anyone if you don't want to. I happen to be an introvert so it's not a big deal to me but maybe you should practice. Head to a movie or out to eat where you wouldn't necessarily be compelled to talk to someone. Sit at the bar at a restaurant for dinner and if someone talks to you have a conversation with them, but if you don't feel comfortable starting one no big deal.
l am from Australia , and last year l traveled to the US with friends ( Vegas bucks ) but after a week of drinking girls a gambling l was quite over it , so l left the group and went to SanFran on my own , it was the first time l had been out of my country without a companion , and you know it was a far better experience than going with someone , you tend to reach out and talk to strangers and other tourists , you all have travel stories , warnings , suggestions , nine times out of ten you arrange to meet in a couple of days just to catch up . l would do it again in a heartbeat and in fact will be traveling to London on my own in a couple of months , l think the secret to commit is to buy a non refundable ticket .
Sounds like you need new friends. Just kidding. But you could look into a travel club or a tour group type of thing. You could also see where others in your family are living, such as Boston, New York, etc. and just go visit them by yourself.
I've found I've met more people and made more friends going out into the world solo than with friends/relatives.
I used to have a fear of being alone, but then I got used to it and now I embrace and it just feels better. I've met a lot of people because of it. I like nature and hiking and exploring, my best friends don't or are allergic to everything that exists and are limited. So I go out by myself quite often. Every time someone asks me about why I'm going camping alone they think I'm doing some sort of vision quest or something.
Travel can get a little overwhelming. Start small. Go to a movie by yourself, or dinner. Or go to a bar and just try to get someone to talk to you. I'm not meaning try to find the most beautiful girl in the room and start chatting her up. Some of the most interesting people I've met are older veterans, for all of the young people at a bar the old guy drinking quietly by himself has some pretty awesome stories he's willing to tell anybody that wants to listen.
I have the same problem actually. I suggest you take a few short travels to areas around where you are doing the weekend tourist thing. Have a book to read during meal times or write in a journal / blog about it, to "discuss the day" as it where. See how that goes.
Why do you not wish to travel alone? What do you fear? For me it was being lost/hurt in a strange country.
Beyond this I do not know what to suggest.