I'm starting school tomorrow at a new university after transferring from a new one, and am already starting to feel nervous about my classes and meeting new people. Anyone have any advice for overcoming this and being able to focus on my studies and everything that comes with being at a university in general? I feel like a nervous wreck, I'm afraid I won't enjoy it and will end up coming back home early.

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*transferring from an OLD one* Typo..

First things first, get your head straight about your studies. Get your routine going first and then move on to making friends. Best way now days is to find all of the university news handles on twitter and Facebook. They will keep you informed on events and clubs to join. Take a look at any educational or social clubs to join (Greek or not).

I spent my 4 years at the University of Houston and made a lot of friends by just being myself and staying open. I attended movie nights, football games, etc.

You're there to get an education first so don't sweat it if you don't make friends right away...other people there are pretty preoccupied the first couple weeks getting adjusted. Just the same as you.

I think everyone feels this way.  The way most of us get thru it is go, go to class, and wait for the feeling to pass.

Erickson wrote well.  Personally I had the same feelings starting at a new place.  I mentally fake it to myself by making sure I have my binder with papers and such.  Focus on figuring out your routes about the place and where to study.  Your goal is your degree, as you focus on that you will find like minded people to hangout with and become friends with.  It is as simple as asking if they want to grab a bite to eat.  Also look up the clubs on campus, hit 1-3 up that match your interests.

As to the nerves, I feel that every time I walk into a classroom or meet a new teacher.  Take deep breaths and work your way through the moment.

Hank,

I was 32 when I started at a very large University going part time while I was in the Navy.  I too was nervous about the classes, meeting new people, as well as getting along with much younger people.  The thing is that you need to just do it.  You'll take classes that you don't really like, meet people who you don't really get along with, and have experiences that aren't really what you would prefer.  On the other hand you'll take courses that you really like, meet people you really get along with, and have experiences that you'll be talking about the rest of your life (some of which you WON'T want to tell your kids).   You'll have the same issues when you graduate and get a job it's called life.

Oh and this is not high school.  Other then group projects, you don't have to deal with people you don't like much.  No one knows your past but you, its a clean slate, enjoy that.

I went through pretty much the same thing, I transferred to a large university from a community college, and I was pretty much scared stiff worrying about fitting in, getting good grades ... you name it, I worried about it.

Your first priority is academics, so focus on that. Like Erickson said, get into a routine ... from my experience, there is no way you're going to get those A's unless you have a well thought-out routine and you stick to it ... unless you're majoring in basket-weaving or something like that. If you've found study habits and a routine that worked for you at your old university, keep it up; it's probably not going to require a radical change to succeed in your new school if you have good habits already in place.

Your first few days, you're going to be a nervous wreck ... I certainly was; the fact that I have general anxiety problems didn't help matters any. But after a while, you'll get used to it. Just hang in there, stick to your routine, and give it time. You'll be fine. And you don't have to join clubs or anything to meet people; the closest friends I've made so far in university are my classmates. Something about taking a hard professor together, working on an insane final project together ... it's a great camaraderie-builder. It's a little stressful, sure, but the feeling at the end is priceless. 

TL;DR: Find a routine that works. Stick to it. You're going to feel like a nervous wreck the first week or so, but hang in there and I can all but guarantee you you'll get used to it in no time. 

When you're transferring into a new routine, it's easy to let the little things get out from underneath you. Start with conquering the little goals, and the big ones will follow.

-Maintain your physical self. Continue to eat, sleep, and exercise on a familiar and sustainable schedule. It's easy to let a new environment throw that out of whack.

-Go to all of your classes, and do all of the required work (even if you don't need to). Skipping one class/assignment will start a bad habit.

-Call your family. It will help put both your minds at ease.

And that's the short version of "how not to make my old mistakes after transferring". Good luck.

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