First, let me say, I don't really need any specific advice. So why post?

Well, I've never started a thread and I thought I'd try and start some kind of discussion.

So here goes:

What advice would you give to a twenty year old man (my age)? Or if you could back and meet yourself at that age, what advice would you give yourself?

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1) Don't be in a hurry to get married and start a family.

2) Don't start a family accidentally.

3) Keep your expenses low, and don't get in debt, especially credit card debt.

4) Take the next couple of years and do some traveling, hike the AT, do those things that you always thought would be super cool - especially if they will take a couple of months to complete.  You may be 65 before you get that opportunity again... depending on your career and family situation.

5) Educate yourself about your nation, its history, and its politics. 

1. Being fit and athletic gets harder every year. Work out. Eat better. Take care of your joints.

2. Don't be afraid to try stuff. 20-something is still young enough to have fun without everyone thinking you're an old fool.

3. Nurture your friendships. Gets harder to make new ones as time goes by.

4. If you meet a potential mrs. Right, go for it. The supply of good ones dwindles as you age fast.

5. If mrs. Right turns out not to be, then move on. Life's too short to waste on the wrong ones.
If you are afraid to do something. Do it. It's never as hard or as scary once you've done it. After a while you essentially become fearless. Not because you are never afraid, but because fear never inhibits you.

You think you know it all now.. and look back on your 15 year old self and think 'what an idiot i was back then'

in 10 years... it's gonna be the same thing "ok i'm 30 I know where I am in the world.. How dumb was I when I was 20'

and so on for your whole life... Unless you become stagnant. so I guess my advice would be keep growing as a person and a man.

Dear 20-year-old-me

+ You are frugal, bordering on ascetic. I thank you for this.

+ Doing the grown up and responsible thing will at one point in life make you deeply unhappy. It will teach you that when the older generation call you "mature" and "wise", it usually means that you have done something you will regret.

+ When offered two alternatives, chose the one that sounds more fun. You do a much better job if you love what you are doing.

+ Loving someone can be so much better than your past experiences have taught you. I know you don't believe in monogamy, 20-year-old-me. I know from experience how much you give up when you chose one person (and one gender) for all eternity. It's a tough deal following someone else's rules. But when it works out, and you meet the right person, you'll realise that it can be worth every little sacrifice you make. After seven years, just thinking about the missus makes me smile.   

+ Forget the whole cat-things. Dogs are great. 

I'd say, learn from people you admire. Lots of people you don't will tell you all sorts of crap, but if you follow their advice, you'll just end up like them.

Ask yourself what you truly want, out of life and who you'd like to become as a person?  Focus on that and only that 

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